venkman_lemmy

Dogs and cows (I live in India at the moment) like me :)

No I mean the "unstable self" part. Someone with an unstable self can be easily manipulated and hurt.

1. Weak Ego

Core idea: Fragile, unstable sense of self.

Examples: Needs validation. Changes personality to fit the group. Identity shifts based on the people around them

2. Healthy Ego

Core idea: Balanced confidence, Very solid internal core, high independence.

Examples:

Can admit mistakes without shame. Holds boundaries kindly. Handles stress without panicking. Doesn’t need to prove anything.

I don't think we think like approval/disapproval. NTs are more obsessed with approval than us and that's how we can be odd.

I like this answer :)

But you do think about that? I mean, in terms of approval and disapproval — even if it’s more like a score.

At some point, they may break down emotionally. You play games with them, and so do others who do not like you. That may make them unreliable.

sure

You might be mixing up being ‘untrustworthy’ with simpler misunderstandings.

Something along those lines. If you have difficulty communicating your boundaries, you may appear "nice", especially if you are a shy person.

Because they can be unpredictable. They cannot be trustworthy. They can be broken easily. People feel insecure around those people whom they cannot trust.

I mean it's like how some people are scared of nice guys.

Let's say uncomfortable