I hate myself for being a man. All I feel anymore is guilt and shame. And there is nothing that can be done.
Um, that's not healthy there...
I mean, I'm a dude, and I realize most dudes suck... But that doesn't make me hate myself. It just makes me want to be "better" so I'm not "one of those men" or one of the dudes who when women are bitching about shitty men, they turn and say,"Well, not you, of course!"
I think this is where Reich Wingers distort the message: The message shouldn't make you hate yourself for being a dude, but should make you hate the toxic masculinity you were taught, and for you to rise above that.
Ignoring what issues? That men, quite often, due to what adults teach kids, are shitty people? Or that it takes a bit of deprogramming oneself to start treating women like equal humans, rather than objects to be won?
Yes, it is the default in our society, for men to be shitty. Because we are still teaching our kids toxic masculinity, rather than healthy masculinity.