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The guy I like told me we would just have to be friends despite liking me because he's dating someone.

HE HAS A CRUSH ON ME OH MY GOD HE WANTS TO BE MY BOYFRIEND OH MY GOD OH MY GOD I LOVE HIM SO MUCH!!!

He decided he didn't want me anymore and it's clear he used me to be his caretaker who did stuff for him but he didn't for me, so why does he message me still??

I've been having conversations with the guy I like, Kieran. We're going somewhere in the beginning of August, but I wonder when it would be awkward/acceptable to send selfies? After the hangout?

I posted yesterday about this but even as friends, the guy I like, "Kieran", said he'd love to hang out with me sometime when we're both not busy!!!

'Tis I, BoyTrouble. I decided to turn over a new leaf and now I'm NewChapter.

My relationship with "Michael" didn't work out, but I have a new crush "Kieran".

I won't say much, but Kieran and I actually met at a therapy reunion sort of thing where every person within my age group who went to that therapy group at one point came together and we said our "final goodbyes" (unless we went back. I really hope that in the future, Kieran and I go and end up going to the same therapy.

Anyway, while I was still dating Michael, I met Kieran and sort of had a crush on him (though not "love", we just met). He doesn't text much, but when he did today, I asked him if he wanted to hang out some time next month since I was busy all throughout this month, and he said he would love to hang out!!!!!!!

Yay!!!!!!!

I barely think about Michael anymore but the hurt is still there. I'm happy, though, and I'm gonna make my posts all about me, my friends, life, and Kieran now.

So, I (18X [possibly genderfluid/masc enby]) posted about liking a guy, I'll call him Kieran to avoid confusion (19M) while in a relationship with "Michael" (24M). Michael and I broke up recently and I've been talking a bit to Kieran. I asked if he wanted to hang out sometime and I know we just could be friends but he said he would love to and I'm panicking!!

Why did it hurt when he said he didn't want to talk to me?

The way he moved on so quickly and said he felt nothing for me immediately after I stopped doing as much stuff for him.

The way he was always on-and-off, like "I love you". Then "we should break up".

The way he would sometimes feel nothing for me even in the relationship.

He suddenly didn't like me anymore. He wasn't focused on a mutual, loving relationship, but more on what I could give him and do for him. He was always happy when I comforted him like I was his parent. Always happy when I did stuff for him, like make gifts, buy gifts, etc. But not once did he try to help me or do anything for me, not even like my interests or watch my movies when I did, like he said he would! Then, he suddenly didn't like me and we broke it off.

Now, his bio says "A owns me", but when I ask him about it, he says that it's "some dumb quote he found".

He was more focused on what I could provide and do for him than having an actual, loving relationship that went both ways. I have enough worth and I surely don't deserve that. Played with me, strung me along, didn't want me yet still kept me around?? My friends all say that's messed up, I should listen to the advice and just ignore him like I'm doing. people are right. He is not my friend, I'm just his pet to keep around when it's convenient.

My ex-boyfriend has been struggling with depression lately, and I want to be there for him as a friend, but he refuses to try to help himself, says I can't help, and thinks he's worthless and all.

I can tell him he's not, and comfort him, but I know he'll just not believe me and thank me for saying something nice to him. He's always depressed and I can't do anything to help and that makes me sad.

Don't try to tell me what I go through isn't real.

Don't try to tell me I'm lying.

Don't try to tell me I'm "schizo" or whatever.

Don't tell me I don't really have a mental illness I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH.

You don't know me, how would you even know whether or not my experiences were real.

I'm currently in therapy with medical professionals, so I am indeed seeking help and working on myself, but to say I didn't go through it when you didn't know me is something else.

(I can't and probably won't say much as it's more of a general rant, plus you can DM for more info but only if you're not gonna be judgemental.)

I decided to just stay friends with him after everything: his mental health plus him not caring enough about what I like and saying stuff about how my interests sucked, wanting me to do stuff for him (buy/make gifts, watch his shows) but would never do that for me, etc. so now I’m a single Pringle boi!