Losing your sense of self in response to criticism is one mark of a man who’s been failed by his upbringing. Mistakes aren’t flaws if you learn from them, and so an identity can only become fragile if it is too brittle to endure change.
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Matt doesn’t have a good idea of who he wants to be at the start of s3. He doesn’t like himself anymore as Murdock or as the Devil. He also wound up in a situation where he didn’t have easy access to his armor, and he kind of resented it anyway. He wants to get hurt, and he thinks he deserves it. So he doesn’t bother trying to salvage it, he decides it isn’t worth the effort. And then later this choice comes back to haunt him.
In this case it’s because he’s obsessed with Lord of the Rings and no deeper than that.
Right. Like what are we supposed to miss? The taxes they don’t pay? The money they’ve stolen? Who cares?
I mean “job creators” is such bunk. They harvest worker’s lives for personal gain. There’d be a rough transition period if they vanished but well… we’re used to it.
They have this vain idea that the world would grind to a halt without them, but they’re parasites. I’m sure we’d flourish.
I love your post!
I agree, it’s very cut and dry what’s going on with this topic. I haven’t seen a single person yet chime in about Gaza who followed up with a sincere conversation about it, though. Just jabs, snark, and mud slinging.
I think the kindest interpretation is that they’re not thinking it through and they don’t want to. The least kind is that they’re insincere and looking for any way to start an argument.
Yeah, voting is something that gets completely recharacterized when you think about it through the lens of harm reduction vs ideal broadcasting. (And, bluntly, for anyone reading this who might disagree: Since votes are private, they don’t cast ideals anyway.)
No one is bent out of shape about local politicians from small parties. It’s the small party voters getting bent out of shape about the presidency never magically going to people who won’t first put in the work to build out proper coalitions.
I think it’s more that you really wanted to vent about this vote withholding thing? And you’re looking for ways to bring it up. I mean just bring it up, right? Why make it like you’re responding to someone you’re not really even talking to?
I did say it made no sense? That’s what I told you.
How is that a defense of your non sequitur post above? I don’t think digging at me is going to brute force that first comment into context.
No, I understand what you said but I think it just sounded like a canned response. If you reread their comment and yours then it really seems like you spring boarded off some key words and didn’t really reply to them at all. It’s not even argumentative, it’s just confusingly misplaced.
Why not just make a top level post?
It sounds like your wife is in deep grief. MS is torment, and she might be processing that grief for the rest of her life. She may not have space for a romance at all. That may never change. Sometimes, MS doesn’t let you get “back to normal”.
It is deeply crucial that you get everyone to counseling now, and not just individually but in spouse and group sessions. As much as you can afford. You have already started a new dynamic and grieving your old one is natural. But you can still support each other and it’s important to do the work and figure out what that looks like.
Partnerships can be loving and supportive and caring and not romantic. Sometimes it’s a phase that comes back to romance, sometimes not. But you need to be ready to relearn a lot of things and that starts with counseling.
Edit: And oh my gosh, I should have led with this - I’m so sorry y’all are going through this. It’s incredibly hard and I hope you get the help you need.