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I recently listened to this German language podcast episode about the social cost and how life is for a few clickworkers in Africa: Das Wissen | SWR: Clickworker – Ausgebeutet für künstliche Intelligenz

Those who understand binary and those who don't?

Hmmh. Maybe you need therapy. There is the possibility that it's not just you being unsuccessful at making friends, but also some form of depression, burn-out or early mid-life crisis. That happens.

And when joining clubs... How do you do it? Do you go there and have fun? Or do you just go there as a means to meet people and frantically try to convince somebody to be your friend? Because lots of people actually go there to do the thing and not necessarily to get to know people. Obviously you're going to be unsuccessful with those people and experience quite some let-downs. Also you're going to miss part of the fun... On the other hand it's the correct way to meet people as an adult. You just can't force it. And you need to adjust your expectations.

And another word of advice: 20 isn't that old. Sure most people have already been in romantic relationships at that age. But a considerable amount of people haven't. For example, it took me a few years longer than that. But everything turned out alright. And we all experienced rejection. Or not matching with people. It happens over and over, and it's part of the game.

Loneliness isn't a nice feeling at all. But it's also not the end of the world. Try to have some fun and don't align your whole life along that one goal. See if there is more that defines you. But you may (and should) also pursue what you want. We all hope you get what you want from life. And with your negative feelings: Maybe try to get someone to listen to you. Maybe professional help. Just to check if you're alright. There are some help-lines you can google and then call. Maybe do that if you feel like it. They have proper advise and can tell you how to get counseling or if you should visit a doctor. Especially once you lose interest in everything. That is not a good thing.

Sure. Then just try both, see where you get the most use out of, and focus on that?

Denke ich auch. "He walks all over you" ist entweder:

• Er trampelt auf dir herum [auf jemandem herumtrampeln]
• Er geht schlecht mit dir um
• Er nutzt dich aus
• Du lässt dich von ihm herumschubsen
• Er überrennt dich (mit ...)

Das ursprünglich Gesagte ergibt jedenfalls so keinen Sinn.

Und "jemanden übergehen" ist eine andere Redewendung: to omit so / to pass so over / to ignore so.

What's your goal?

Thanks for enlighting me. I have to fact check this, but occasionally I also consume what they tell in random business coaching without questioning it.

Edit: Fact checked. And learned something today. Thx.

Maybe you're more introverted and tend towards learning in an autodidactic way?

Not being like all the other people isn't necessarily a bad thing. Yes, it's difficult to be different. But we should embrace being human and diverse. Everyone learns at their own pace. Some people learn better by watching and imitating, some people like to understand things down to the core and can't just "do this and do that and you're done." And there are different learning styles anyways: Auditory, Visual, Tactile, ...

I just wanted to say you're not alone with that. I also regularly fail to remember dancing steps, when someone shows me how to assemble furniture or do some task. I can't for the life of me remember driving directions. I'd much rather get handed an instruction manual and I can read it at my own pace. Everytime I get what I need and what matches my learning type, I can excel at things, so it's not a lack of intelligence.

And it works, too if you're taught 1 on 1. So you can ask your "instructor" to slow down or speed up things you already know. It's just difficult in group scenarios. And I don't think there is a way around speaking up and letting them show it to you once more. But I think most people should theoretically be able to relate. Other people struggled in maths in school and had things explained to them over and over again, which was super boring to me. But we all grasp different concepts in different amounts of time and we sometimes need to be taught in the way that is right for us individually.

And a last word to climbing: Getting it almost immediately isn't the important part of the knot. The important part is that you never fail to do it correct in the years to come. Where I learned climbing they hand you a scrap piece of old rope and you can practice at home. And the week after you need to demonstrate that you're able to do the knot and check it for correctness. I've been with the (boy) scouts for years, so I could already tie the knot perfectly.

(Edit: "Learning style theories have been criticized by many scholars and researchers. Some psychologists and neuroscientists have questioned the scientific basis for separating out students based on learning style. [...] Many educational psychologists have shown that there is little evidence for the efficacy of most learning style models, and furthermore, that the models often rest on dubious theoretical grounds." Source: Wikipedia)

Because campaigning works differently across the globe. So does media coverage and politics and how the different parts of legislative share competence/responsibility.

I'd say you need to follow local news and what happened in the last years to make an informed decision. See which party/politicians built children's playgrounds, did something useful for the community and which major tore down the shops in the city center to make space for more lucrative office buildings... It's really difficult to tell if you don't know what's happening around you but just following world politics. (And local newspapers are long gone, so that's another hurdle.) Where I live they have some scarce information online. And you can also go to them once they go campaigning and listen to them or read some advertising material.

A big part of my decision is the party they're part of. At least when I never read their names before. I'm also not affiliated with one specific party, but I certainly know if I'm conservative, religious or progressive and whether I care for the environment and other people. So I can base my decisions on that and whether their party cares for the things I deem important.

I don't remember that many political arguments. At least not this way conservative<->progressive. I remember them mostly from the comment section of news articles and YouTube videos (since YT has been a thing) and of course Twitter. But less so from dedicated discussion places like forums and such. But my perspective is probably skewed. I wasn't really part of early Reddit. And I'm not American and we have/had different discussions here. Well... Maybe I wasn't that interested in political discussions on the internet when I was young(er). But the places I used to frequent were more focused on specific topics, technology and not about ideology (apart from free software ideology.)

But trolling, flaming, baiting etc has been part of internet culture for a long time. I don't remember how they called brigading before Reddit. I think that is a term I learned in the last few years.

feddit.de is broken as of now. You can't upload images here. Sign up at discuss.tchncs.de (for example. That server works.)

Mirroring works best if you monkey them. Just repeat the exact words just like in an ape voice. A little pantomime helps, too.