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[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Or sooner, once the medicine kicks in.

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 12 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Oh, I am going to try to replicate this study. I'll hit you back in about 50 years if it worked.

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

You were in a corrugated plastic pipe factory and the cigarettes were an issue? Damn. You would think the VOC off-gassing from hot plastic would break you first...

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah, I wasn't doing shit at 19 but spending all day at a coffee shop, learning how to make fake IDs and playing pool at night.

I still drink coffee, work in IT Security and play a sick game of pool +25 years later. So by some measures, I haven't accomplished much of anything either. (I jest. I have had a very interesting life, but it hadn't even started yet when I was 19.)

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I am a huge advocate of psychedelic therapy, but I would be a bit wary of it for younger adults unless OP is willing to submit to a study.

By all means, OP should talk to a professional about it, but it still seems like it would be in an experimental phase for that age range.

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 44 points 1 week ago

Very fast, right at the base of the skull.

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 week ago

The boredom and accompanying loneliness sucks ass. The boredom was the first thing that hit me and our situations seem nearly 1:1.

And yeah, the boredom is probably a key factor in my personality change and I didn't make that connection. The loneliness absolutely is too. ie: All my drinking buddies seem to have disappeared and I wasn't quite prepared for that, TBH. (I knew it was a thing already though.)

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 week ago

Self-medication was absolutely a factor for me, and I still see it all the time amongst my peers. As such, I am extremely open about my place on the spectrum and extremely open about my alcoholism. (My goal is not to "diagnose" people with a disorder, but to hopefully trigger a chain of events that leads to a person seeking assistance on their own.)

If I had to speculate, alcohol tempered my hyperactivity for a good number of years. While I am aware that is a huge part of my personality change, it's absolutely not the complete picture.

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 week ago (2 children)

It's more anxiety that can cause my depression and my anxiety and depression is only a shadow of what it once was since quitting the booze.

Most of that stems from ADHD and the bubble of problems that come from that. It could be possible that some ADHD'isms have simply gotten the chance to blossom fully over the last couple of years.

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

That combo is too inefficient for me. I like coffee, but if I am prioritizing caffeine and still want something more sugary, an energy drink would be fine.

So, a bottle of water and a large Red bull would be sufficient and easier to transport, while also staying in-line with what I would carry around if I really wanted multiple experiences.

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

And not always nice

There have only been one or two people I have met that were more tolerable when they drank, so I get what you mean.

Still, I find it hard to believe that long term sobriety wouldn't be a net positive unless it wasn't a person's own decision to stop drinking in the first place.

[–] remotelove@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 week ago

I like it when rooms feel open. Even without open floor plans, strategic furniture placement and wall paint can make almost any room feel a bit more spacious, even if it is just an illusion.

Rooms like the one in the picture make me feel like the walls are closing in on me, or I start to get false feelings that it is dirty or musty. The small room in the back of that space doesn't look welcoming and resembles some place were only bad things happen. I can't help but start to imagine the sound of an old grandfather clock ticking in the background as a weird sign that I will be stuck in that room for a while.

 

Originally, I just wanted to request tagging specific instances as NSFW. This would be helpful for posters on specific instances that do not always tag posts as NSFW but still should get caught by our NSFW preferences.

NSFW isn't always porn so the NSFW filter catches a bit much, sometimes. Excluding specific communities from the NSFW filter is an option, but that gave me yet another idea.

Expanding on this idea, it would be cool to start categorizing communities with tags, like "sports" or "news", "world news" or something arbitrary like "neat".

This would allow filtering by what kinds of content I want to view at any given time, in theory. Hell, we could even start building a master list to share for community categories in GitHub or something like that.

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April ml Rule (infosec.pub)
submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by remotelove@lemmy.ca to c/196@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

Don't you ever change, .ml!

 

Time seems to cause this more than anything else and I cannot replicate at-will. (I have actually been trying to catch the condition that causes this for a few months, but finally gave up today.)

Backing out from other communities will sometimes trigger this, but not always. I have only noticed this on c/all. If it seems I have been in one community for a "bit of time" and have locked/unlocked my phone a couple of times, the chance of this occuring seems higher. (That theory is kinda bullshit, but it's something)

Reloading the feed from the main menu clears the condition. (I haven't checked if a standard feed refresh works after the last couple of updates. It usually hasn't worked.)

 
 

It's kinda useless for productivity or usability but I like it a ton. ;)

 

Weird "all" feed blanking bug. This is more likely to happen if the 20-30 thumbnails have not completed load.

 

This seems to be related to thumbnails that aren't fully loaded, but not always?

  1. When scrolling fast and preventing thumbnails from fully loading, I can get the feed to temporarily hang until it finishes loading loading some thumbnails.

  2. I will eventually hit a "feed limit" when scrolling through the feed to ~100 posts.

  3. Sometimes, slowly scrolling back up the feed to allow unloaded thumbnails to finish may "unblock" the feed for a bit, but not always. It may load one or two additional posts, and hang again.

There seem to be multiple conditions causing the feed to pause vs completely hang, and I can't nail those conditions down.

This issue has gotten much better since 219, but is still a bit quirky.

 

This is an odd problem to describe.

I can scroll through about 20 posts and then the feed will "hang". Once those 20 or so posts finish loading thumbnails, additional older posts will be loaded.

This is not as noticeable on fast connections, but causes significant lag on slow connects. There is no immediate indicator that Connect is still loading newer post data when you hit the end of the feed cache/buffer. (It feels like feeds have been split into "pages" and after 20 or so posts, there is a delay when hitting another "page".)

Thanks for attempting to read this shitty description of a problem. I tried.

Edit: The feed will actually get "stuck" sometimes. It's common for me on "all". I had 800mb in cache and just cleared it. It's got a little better for some reason. I can get close to 50-60 posts before the feed pauses or hangs.

 

I am going to edit this post and get some screenshots. (Done)

Note: Backing out of this post, after navigating to this post, via my profile, triggered the "blank feed" issue again. (See blank screenshot in comments.)

(Sorry for the issue replication testing in this post.)

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submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by remotelove@lemmy.ca to c/stopdrinking@lemmy.world
 

A key point of many recovery programs is to separate yourself from your drinking buddies, which is probably the most difficult thing for anyone in any situation. It's something I still deal with in some ways: Drinking friends are extremely easy to find. Real friends absolutely do not show up everyday.

I was just thinking about some of the people this morning that I just don't have the need to associate with anymore. There are two that I still occasionally hang out with, but there was a deeper friendship besides booze from the start.

If you are having this problem now, it gets better over time, I promise. It may take a couple of years to learn life again, but you can heal. In retrospect, having much more time on my hands just made the initial loneliness much worse.

My friends changed but also the reasons to hangout with other people also changed. This took time for me to understand. What matters to me personally has slowly morphed over these last few years and that is reflected in who I choose to associate with.

My conclusion is that I absolutely underestimated the time recovery actually takes and how my views on things like friendship would shift. As my entire personality was based on alcohol, I have found that reevaluating past decisions or assumptions can be useful, if not paramount to moving forward. This, unfortunately, takes lots time and time is not a friend to anyone fresh into recovery.

(This was just another one of my random annual stopdrinking posts. If you needed to relate to this in some way, that is awesome. For me, self-reflection is important and I choose to make it public. If this post seems self-centered, that is because it is: It's just not unhealthy.)

 

Edit: This is a weird thread, and might be a one-off. Maybe I have one of those users blocked and it's hiding the rest of the thread? I dunno, and I'll check. // It doesn't appear that I have any of those users blocked.

After opening my profile history, I can open a thread in my profile view. Clicking into a reply comment takes me to my comment on the post.

I cannot see the full comment thread when I view the full posts history on a post and trying to actually get to new comments is like trying finding the exit at IKEA.

Basically, I can't navigate to a thread to reply, and I had an awesome snarky comment prepared, but forgot it trying to get there.

Navigation behavior is so strange, either I have developed pre-release Alzheimer's, or Connect is bugged. (I don't discount either scenario.)

Sorry, I got jokes today.

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