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It's good to be able to explain it afterward.

I used to spend time with my wife's uncle who is probably on the spectrum and he would have massive meltdowns any time something unexpected happened. He would usually blame other people, even after the fact. He's a very bad person though and he bullies other autistic people over his own insecurities, which he denies. He would constantly imitate an autistic kid he saw at the mall and when the three of us went to see Ready Player One, he started laughing to himself and mocking the programmer character during the movie.

My sister was diagnosed and I'm aware that he doesn't represent the overwhelming majority of autistic people. He used to bully her as well and was absolutely obsessed with the fact that she was a virgin before transitioning.

What are the characteristics of both? I got ADHD and my sister got diagnosed with autism prior to transitioning. She seems much more on the ADHD spectrum then autism since transitioning.

I used to eat cheap hot dogs all the time, but it gets incredibly monotonous and you start to hate it.

I find people with autism or ADHD want to be more straight forward, which can be easier, but at the same time, some people expect you to be super straight and honest with them and that can be challenging because it feels rude or it feels like you're forcing them to conform.

If I was getting feedback that people felt like they didn't have money to go out to the movies, I'd probably put down money to buy everyone popcorn and soda so they could go and get something nice there. I wouldn't mind doing that once per month.

I've noticed this among people with autism or ADHD. A lot of them don't like to say no, but it's an important skill to develop. It can feel rude or uncompassionate, but you aren't obligated to help anyone. Obviously if someone you know is in need and you don't have another obligation, it's good to go help them, but you shouldn't feel obligated to go spend your afternoon at the mall if you don't want to go because someone wants a ride.

Yeah I agree. Getting out of your comfort zone simply conditions yourself to feeling uncomfortable, but simply doing it isn't going to get you the things that you want. If you tag along as a fifth wheel to parties and stand around but don't actually like being there, you're out of your comfort zone but you're not actually gaining anything. You aren't going to make friends or find a girlfriend by standing in the corner.

You also need to approach with compassion and I agree that we should moderate our expectation. Someone who has been a shut-in would be making a lot of progress just by going out to a party once.

You need to take care of yourself first. Don't set yourself on fire trying to help other people. It's ok to say no if people are always asking you for stuff.

I don't think anyone really assumes time apart is dislike. I have noticed that people will social difficulties will make that assumption that they'll do things related to it that push people away.

It took way too long to get the dad joke here.

You don't need high capacity assault style sporting features on a car. Manual transmissions are sporting features. Any car with two or more sporting features is a sports car and no civilian needs to own something like that for transportation.

I have mixed feelings about this. Self moderation is better then needing to get mods involved with everything. Lemmy does it pretty well where voting only impacts each post and there's no total karma count.