peoplebeproblems

So ok, Chick-fil-A sandwich is pretty good if you don't get the pickle and mayo.

But everything else is eh, and the sauces are downright disgusting

I have to work with Angular so

Anything but Angular

Ok honestly I never worked hard, because I couldn't ever work harder than possible. So birth?

I always take on much more than I should because thats apparently at least 2 things. So 34

But being really nice just feels better. So when I die.

So, wait I'm really confused.

The twisted propaganda term is used for men not getting laid.

The actual problem is men having a distinct lack of social support.

I must not understand this meme then.

I won't disagree with that denialism.

My parents were successful seemingly effortlessly. My dad has dyslexia, but is a retired math professor. He reads a lot, if not a lot slower than the rest of my family. My mom an engineer.

I'm an engineer. I can't connect the possibility of being disabled to my career. It's not acceptable socially, or professionally. There are no real safety nets. No drugs will make my day any easier. I can't undo psychological damage done to me. But I need to survive. I need to make sure my kid survives. Disability is not an option. It's just not, not for me.

If the rest of you want to be disabled fine. But don't include me.

Yes I'm not arguing that. But it's only one aspect. There are more criteria to it.

Otherwise it seems as though people are arguing it's inevitable that single men will remain single - and more men will isolate, and choose between suicide and radicalization. This is not true if the remaining social support is in place.

I understand this. I really do. I'm having just as hard of a time getting any dates as anyone else. I'm sexually and romantically frustrated as all hell. I understand the draw of the manosphere. But the disease that is spreading isnt because of the lack of that sex or romance.

Here I am going to be the distasteful contrarian progressive, but it's because I'm desperately hoping people see that the difference isn't dating.

Because yes, you are right, as a single progressive man, dating is no walk in the park. Plenty of good reasons for this on the side of women.

Are you lonely as termed by the actual problem of male loneliness? Do you have at least a couple of friends who you can get to lunch with? Do you have a brother, sister, cousin, parents, etc. nearby? Do you have someone to help you if you get sick? Do you have an active social group you feel included in?

If the answer to them is no, then yes, definitely you are in the loneliness group. Sure, dating can help with it - but what happens if/when you break up: you don't have the support there.

I'm really worried about how people are continuing to separate and blame things that aren't the root of problems on distractions.

Like I get it. I'm there. I'm divorced, I'm coming to terms that I was in a 15 year abusive relationship, I'm hurt by her cheating on me twice, I'm hurt by her rejecting my joys and attempts at connecting and reconnecting, I miss the idea of being with her. It's been over two years since I slept next to her, or anyone.

She tried to isolate me. She love bombed me. She gaslit me. She threatened me.

But I had a kid, I have my parents, my brother, several friends, a couple of regular groups I meet up with. I desperately want the love life I pretended to have. But if it weren't for that support system in place, I would have killed myself two years ago.

Instead I lost the weight that was actually killing me. I put muscle on where I've had none. There are physical features I cannot change that affect my physical attractiveness that I get that will impede my ability to date via apps.

That's how I was able to figure this all out. The fact that you are progressive means that you see the value in other people, and see the value in connection.

There has been narratives pushed for decades to try and isolate us, gaslight us, and threaten us as humans. We need to put our oxygen mask on first before helping others.

It's not. It's actual loneliness. Not having regular social activities, not having support systems in place for their frustrations. Not being close to family, not having anyone to help them when they get sick. Plenty of lonely people are getting laid, but they still lack all that support.

👀 ngl I'll say I got this for my 8 year old but we know the truth

Hence the tray, you do both and it's better than either. Wish I had one

I don't usually take a bath to feel clean, I take one to relax