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Get a bidet, friend

I wonder which would win in a boxing match?

Sorry, I just woke up

calls out of work and books a ticket to Casseroya Lake.

Can confirm, "my lesbian experience with loneliness" is gold. I'd recommend it even to people who aren't accustomed to reading comics or manga. Masterpiece autobiographical literature.

I've read most of these. Here are my unsolicited reviews:

"I'm in love with the villainous?" I read the first 2 books, and the flipped perspective companion series. It's almost genius in the way it stops to directly address the reader and break down the lesbian experience directly in a meta sort of way, but ultimately it is a wish fulfillment lesbian fantasy that doesn't take it's fictional conciet to it's natural endpoint, imo (the main character is a lovable psycho, and they don't really reckon with the psycho part. I really wish they would.)

"The guy I was interested in wasn't a guy at all" Best manga art I've seen in a long time. It oozes style and pretty, simple queerness. The format is not as long. It's more like a weekly strip, sometimes, and my biggest fault with it is I wanted to see longer plot arcs play out uninterrupted. I could just flip through pages of this manga without reading and melt at all the pretty stars, interesting expressions, and stylish outfits. Maybe, if I could complain about one thing, everyone is so hot in this manga that it legit is a bit annoying.

"Yamada and Kase-san" is very, very cute. It's wholesome, not overly dramatic, and very gay. The characters aren't anything too new, but it manages to feel more authentic than most other slice of life Yuri manga. The art is great, too.

"Bloom into you." I've tried so many times to read this one, because everyone recommends it constantly, but I think I've got too much dude energy or something because I don't like it. Sorry!

Anyway, read them all, peeps.

Not gonna lie, that looks fun as hell to play on

This is not a service I personally use, but I've thought about it: services like mysudo let you select and create new phone numbers. https://anonyome.com/individuals/mysudo-plans/

In your situation I might research and select a service like this. Then create a few disposable numbers. Give one to your trusted friends and family, another to employers and banks, etc, and the third to anyone else you need to contact.

Once you've transitioned everything important to the new numbers, get yourself a new phone number, and don't give it to anyone. Maybe just your parents, for emergencies.

This has 2 downsides and 2 big advantages I can see.

Cons:

1, it cost you monthly. I think 3 numbers from mysudo is like $5 a month

2, it's a pain to transition folks to your new number.

Pros:

1, if your stalker finds one of your new numbers, it's easier to change them.

2, you can narrow down who it might be. Like, if you have a number dedicated to work contacts and the stalker starts texting it, you know they either are a coworker or got it from a coworker.

I think Google voice can also give you some free numbers, so look into that. Good luck!

I got ratted out by the thumbnail 😢

I know right? It's just a total waste of everyone's time.

Omigosh Lois! The enlarging ray is hitting me right in my wiener! Oh no!

I mean no offense, but it sounds like you have poorly developed social skills. I used to as well.

You could try reframing it in your mind:

It's not faking, it's practice.

If you pick up an instrument for the first time to practice, you will sound terrible, and possibly be discouraged, but if you practice for hundreds of hours you'll be able to play it for real.

Babies and children aren't born knowing how to express interest or sympathize. You certainly weren't. Children have to learn how to do this. It is possible that you need to practice if you want to build intimate relationships. There is no shortcut to this.

(35, he/him) This is how I met my first girlfriend, in reverse. I was lonely and had mentally committed to making a friend in a manic episode. I saw her on a bench reading and asked if I could sit next to her. I had a book with me too, and began to read. Then, I asked what she was reading. We became friends, and later dated for 2.5 years.

I've spent a lot of time wandering around hoping people would talk to me. I used to feel like it was worthless, because 95% of the time no one will talk to you, but those odds aren't so bad in hindsight. Go into public 100 times a year and you'll have 5 decent shots at making a friend. Make one friend a year, and you'll probably have more social opportunities than you want to deal with.

I've met people randomly in public like this perhaps 6 times.

There are other factors other than randomness:

1. I'm very friendly to people. I like to ask questions once a conversation gets going, and I get animated on just about any topic. I talk to myself a lot, so even when I'm not exposed to people I'm practiced, in a way.

2. There is usually an activity involved. Reading a book together, drawing on an airplane, posting art on a blog, taking classes together, being at the same work event, hiding in the same hard to find corner of the library. These are all situations from my life, and they typically involve a shared activity, or a creative outlet. This is probably why people recommend joining clubs / going to bars, advice I've never taken, but I see the reasoning.

I don't mean to project that my social life is great! I've been terribly lonely during much of it, and these experiences I'm describing took place over several years. However, if I could boil down my successes, I'd say they cultivating a curiousty in others and publically engaging in my hobbies has been the best way to make friends (and occasionally lovers).