I’m not judging your sentiment, but I’d like to offer a possible solution.
I don’t know about Canada but in the USA what you are talking about is possible: a bar that excludes certain people based on a category of your choice.
Due to anti-discrimination laws this is not possible with a public business, but it is possible with private clubs. If you have heard about Elks Club or Moose Lodge or The American Legion. The organizations have clubs that restrict membership and only allow members to enter, and they operate bars.
I know a guy who jokingly said, the VFW was started so that veterans could drink on Sundays.
You seem very motivated, so maybe evangelize this idea among the community and see if you can get something like this up and running in Toronto. Or, such a thing might already exist.
Good luck. You might end up creating exactly the space you want with like minded folks.
LOL! 99% of people absolutely do not look up a new word when they hear it. If the listener thinks it makes the speaker sound smart then they get a vague idea of the meaning from context and then start using it – often in the wrong context. All the dummies of the world repeat this process and it spreads like a virus.
And thus, another word with a very specific meaning gets turned into another broad-meaning synonym. If don’t believe me I’ll caveat all over your nuances until you verbiage.