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[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Good luck! They're out there! Just have to find them :)

And all who are considering Emma's request for friendship, she is amazing! And a fantastic person to talk with ❤️

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Troy and Abed in the moooorrrnnning!

Yep, you're a really awesome person! Love those names. And I would bet money Keris would be so happy to have a little kitty door so they can visit her. She adores cats.

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I can not express the gratitude I have for you. Keris seemed to be in a desperate situation and I think you are going to be such a positive influence on her life as she moves forward.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you. Youre a modern day underground railroad safe haven for us trans people who just want to live our lives.

The world needs more people like you and your family. ❤️

Take care and again, thank you for saving a close friend

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago

Just had my first check up with my Endo yesterday. Been on HRT for 3 months and my E levels are almost where I want them at 97.1 pg/ml. Trying to get to the 150 range.

Haven't gotten my testosterone test back yet but hoping it's low as the 100mg of Spiro a day is already kicking my ass.

Also through these blood tests I found out I probably have hyperthyroidism so gonna have to figure that all out. And maybe Celiacs Disease. Lol

But otherwise, I'm super happy with my results so far and just learned my daily ibuprofen intake can stunt boob growth so I'm coming off that as fast as possible.

Currently my biggest hurdle is finally coming out at work ... Then everyone in my life will finally know and I don't have to keep going by my deadname

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago

I'm working on parent names too with my wife :) I've been daddy up to this point (21 months) and although I don't get dysphoria from my son referring to me as daddy, it's not feeling right with other people.

Anyways, glad to hear you've found out what your son will call you ❤️ I'm personally leaning towards Momo and my wife is Mama. Momo because it's a mix of mama with the first initial of my name (Olivia) and also, reminds me of Momo from Avatar the Last Airbender; so I'm digging that, lol.

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago

Thank you so much for your insightful reply ❤️

I think I personally got so caught up in the idea of "what makes a good mom" that I didn't really see the simple answer of it being about being a good parent. Just being that person your child can always come to

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago

I feel largely the same way. When I try and think of what makes a good mom or dad, they both are basically "what makes a good parent"

I just have some mental block on the labels for some reason. 😓

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 year ago

Thank you for your response ❤️🥹

My son is 21 months old and his birth was a catalyst for my egg crack.

Ever since he was born I parented as my authentic self (whether I realized that at the time or not) so largely my parenting has been just that. Being the best parent I can be.

My wife and I were talking earlier today and we both for some reason are having a hard time seeing me as a "mom" but also not as a "dad" Somewhere in between, but in all other aspects we both see me as a woman. Dysphoria withstanding.

I'm not saying I feel like the parental roles should be different per se, that doesn't make sense to me. I view it as a full partnership and gender doesn't play a part.

But then on the other hand I feel like I'm taking something away from my son by feeling more and more disconnected from "daddy" and more connected to "something else" Like I don't deserve the title of mom or dad but something else. I desperately want to be mom but I love hearing my son run up to me yelling dada!. It warms my heart because that is his sound for me. For our special connection we share....

I think at the end of the day, I have some internal transphobia to work through because this is the one area of my transition where I have this sense of being a "trespasser" Being a mother has always been a dream of mine even when I didn't have the words for it. So why don't I feel like I am a mother? When in all aspects of life I am living as my authentic self.

😓

Anyways, thank you for coming to my Ted talk :)

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago

I did the same thing basically. Also started shaving my arms for a while because they got to a point where they seemed "too" hairy. Stopped and had to play boy when I got made fun of for it. 😓

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 year ago

Yeah totally. All boys dream of being a girl some day. If only we were trans. But ya know

Still cis tho. 😂

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

This was me. Oh my god I always needed my clothing to cover as much as possible. Always hated shorts because I thought my legs were disgustingly hairy (not really) and I needed to wear a hoodie everywhere. No matter how hot it was.

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Damn. This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing! 🥰

 

Hey ladies ❤️

I have my first consult with an endocrinologist on Monday to start HRT! I'm so excited to begin this part of the journey but have one snag that I'm having trouble getting past.

My wife and I are trying to store some of my sperm in case we want a second child in a few years. Obviously I need to do this before I can start E, but am having issues finding a bank near me and figuring out how much to store, how to prep and all that.

So a couple questions for those that went through the banking process before starting their journeys:

How much should I bank for IUI to "effectively guarantee" there will be enough stored to get a positive pregnancy? I've heard that IUI has a really low success rate, but I have no idea how much sperm is used per session and exactly how much I should store to make sure we don't run out?

Any one have experience using a mail in service? And if so, what was the process like? And are their labs out there that accept insurance?

What do I need to do in order to prep for deposit? I've read that abstinence for 5-7 days is ideal. What about medical tests or referrals?

Generally, any recommendations on mail in labs would be really helpful. Preferably with a lower up front cost for the mail kit, washing and prep, and maybe a year of storage to start off?

Thank you for any insights ❤️ this is my last step before I can dive into HRT and want to get to my biHRTday so bad 😭

 

Hey friends ❤️

Bit of an off topic question, but could use some help from my sisters.

Coming up is the first Valentine's day that my wife and I have decided to celebrate. It's also the first one since I cracked my egg.

I'm weirdly at a loss for how to celebrate and what gifts to get my wife. Specifically, I would love to find a gift or make a meaningful memory for her as a thank you for her devotion and love for me. Especially after coming out and being my authentic self.

Does anyone have any ideas? Best I have thought of is a set of matching jewelry or maybe little love notes hidden around the house about why I love her.

Not really sure

 

I think I'm struggling a bit on my self acceptance.

For example, I know that HRT is something I want. But I'm not ready for it right now. I have this strong desire to start it and start a more noticeable transition, but after looking more into it I got scared and dysphoric almost about the whole thing?

I have moments where I'm confident and want to move forward but also moments where I'm scared and it feels like too much.

Plus I feel like I'm running out the clock on my transition. I'm almost 30 and only came out to myself and my wife a month ago. I feel like I've wasted a lot of my life already in the wrong body and I feel like I need to play catch up almost.

I guess I'm wondering if these are common feelings people have when first starting off? Knowing that you want something for your transition but just not being ready yet. And this weird sense of time slipping away even faster than before? Almost like a mid life crisis... like a beginning transition crisis, lol

Just something I've been conflicted over the past week that I thought I would share with y'all. ❤️

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