I didn't have this problem with Mastodon, but totally had it with Pixelfed. I don't think Pixelfed, at least at that time, supported relays. I scraped around pixelfed.social to find people to follow because I had an account there. It didn't seem possible at the time to see profiles on public servers, without having an account, so it was hard finding people. It was something I was used to do doing on Mastodon. In the end, I didn't have a positive experience running my own Pixelfed instance, and just decided to use pixelfed.social.
I do follow the developer and he's been making a lot of great progress. I've got the mobile app, and it's quite decent.
Do you happen to recall about when that happened?
I remember buying a 250 MB Seagate hard drive sometimes when I was in high school in the mid-90s, and I think it cost something like $250, but I'm really not sure.