jsomae

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[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The main problem, as I see it, is not that her literal statements if made policy would be the most extreme in today's overton window. The problem is that she's made herself the face of transphobia by putting herself in the center of it. She's taken her preexisting fame and used it to push her (admittedly not extreme) transphobia. When people say "name a transphobe," they think of her -- and this was her clear intention.

Because she has fame and power, she probably does the most direct damage to trans people overall. More than Jordan Peterson, etc.

[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Aro/ace are valid and are LGBTIA+. What I mean is, "ally" implies straight, and I'm not.

Gender is a spectrum, and I consider myself cis, even if there are others more cis than me. Most of my troubles with gender come from me feeling society is at fault for treating me differently because of my sex. I think most educated women express such opinions, and that doesn't make us enbies.

[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

why do people in general need to know this at a glance? Can they not tell by the content of my posts that I support trans people? I thought this rule was to help mods make quick judgments.

[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 24 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

Although I'm a cis woman, I have never felt especially pleased with being lumped into this category. I have never listed my pronouns before, ever, and I avoid listing my gender if possible, because I do not want the first thing people to know about me be my gender and then view me through that lens. I have always appreciated the trans community overlooks my femaleness and sees me instead. In real life daily, to my great displeasure I am lumped into one of two boxes; the internet is a welcome reprieve.

I am not nonbinary, I do not prefer they/them. I go by she/her, but I don't want to advertise this. I have my own struggles with gender, even if I'm ultimately cis, and forcing me to report my gender in my username seems frankly gender essentialist.

I did not choose my pronouns.

What should I write? (none) is wrong, because I can be referred to with pronouns.

(ally) might be nice, except in LGBTIA+, "Ally" implies being straight, and I'm not straight.

How about an empty ()? to indicate I acknowledge the system but opt out personally. Or something cute like (friend), or comrade (but I don't know all the implications of that)

[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

"The platform formerly known as Twitter"?

It wouldn't be so bad if it weren't the fact that he's trying to lay claim to 1/26th of the English alphabet

[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thanks for your reply. I didn't realize the Netherlands had it so bad: I assumed they were open minded about lgbt stuff. My condolences, and I hope your conditions improve.

[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah that makes sense, I don't doubt the regret numbers. I didn't realize cosmetic surgery regret was that high. Well damn, consider me educated.

I've seen that knee surgery figure before but I don't think it's a good comparison at all, and it's easily attacked. Knee surgery has immense potential for chronic pain afterward, and poor mobility. Dysmorphia regret rates are much more compelling.

[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

OK, the argument that it's caused by improper hormones is very compelling. The state could save money by helping ensure the hormones are corrected as early as possible.

I do not know if antidepressants help cis dysmorphia, I'm somewhat skeptical about that. Antidepressants aren't a miracle drug when it comes to this kind of thing, from what I've seen.

[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (8 children)

I'm not against it, I want to understand the issue better. I do not understand why being against it is transphobia, but I would like to understand this better.

No provinces in Canada nor any medical boards consider it necessary, though they do consider other more expensive transgender surgeries medically necessary. (That is not to say I agree with them on account of their authority -- but I am curious what analogous organisations in the US differ here.) Edit: I imagine the vast majority of trans people agree that gender-affirming surgeries like top & bottom are necessary, or at least should be covered, but I'd be interested to see if most trans people agree that FFS is medically necessary.

I can understand the argument that it's simply a different illness than cisgender dysmorphia. But, why do we not consider cisgender dysmorphia something which warrants medically necessary surgery? It can cause equal amounts of suffering. Perhaps we should fund both.

[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The full title on close parsing doesn't make sense in xorg context. But "X kills its app" initially had my brain trying to figure out what people were running X on mac.

[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (10 children)

I don't mean any ill but I'd just like to understand better; I apologise sincerely if this is offensive and I beg your patience with me. Supposing a transgender person already "passes," is there a meaningful difference between FFS and cosmetic surgery? There are cis people with very severe body image issues including with, say, how their nose or brow looks -- even suicidally so.

[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 92 points 1 year ago (13 children)

Please call it Twitter in the title unless there's a good reason not to. I thought this was Xorg.

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