gift_of_gab

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[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 11 points 4 days ago

Not sure if this will provide you with any hope, but there's some good news as to our* numbers. While it may not seem like much, it's a massive jump generationally. In the US, out 2SLGBTQIA+ people are almost 10% of the entire population. Considering how many of our siblings are closeted, it's a pretty big boost.

(*I discovered last month that my being enby counts as a 'trans experience' so I am tentatively trying out including myself.)

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 11 points 4 days ago

Thank you so much for posting this! I'm looking to get myself - and my recently-out daughter! - our first pairs. This is absolutely full of things I had no idea about. 💜

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

It's true, I should spend less time here on Lemmy.

EDIT: If you think I haven't heard/experienced those things on Lemmy, oh boy do I have bad news for you. I've had to make multiple accounts for every time a bunch of MGTOW guys decide to spam my account with messages/downvotes, so I'm used to it. Downvote away :)

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago (5 children)

Oh yeah, whenever I see men whining and complaining about something to do with women, I feel this sense of euphoric calm; this feeling of 'I remember this. I'm not part of that group anymore. They don't speak for me.'

It has a tinge of melancholy afterwards, because I still have to deal with men, yet I feel less embarrassed for myself.

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 18 points 4 days ago (7 children)

Reading over these comments brings me back to why I came out as non-binary, and the gender euphoric boost is quite nice.

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world -3 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Back when I was a kid, pedophilia meant what she said - attraction to a prepubescent child. If someone was an adult who thought a physically developed 15-year-old was sexy, that was just logical.

Was this the 1890's? I was born in '82, and I can't think of a single time someone was like "oh an adult and a 15 year old child? Yeah that's okay."

I find it strange that we use the same word for someone who rapes a toddler, as someone who “statutory rapes” (as it would be called) a 15-year-old. They are both wrong, but it seems to me that one is much worse than the other. Both because of the attraction (or I guess power fantasy) on the part of the adult, and the impact to the victim.

This is straight priori falacy. Why the fuck are you arguing the 'degrees of okay-ness' for sex with children. This is fucking baffling.

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 40 points 6 days ago

Their managers are also call center employees who will filter that noise out. That’s one of the reasons to employ a call center.

Then how did Collective Shout cause all of these companies to do what they want with ~1000 phone calls?

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Is this a kill all men thing or like

A threat saying to fight back against catcallers

Well, yes.

[–] gift_of_gab@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Patricio Manuel is 3-1 in boxing. His main issue is men won't fight him now because they're terrified of losing to a trans man. It's patriarchy all the way down, so generally the accomplishments of men who've transitioned and suppressed, because it kind of shatters the entire 'unfair' claim when trans men can win. It also doesn't help them that being a trans woman isn't some kind of automatic win; I can't remember her name, one woman was claimed to be 'cheating' because she was trans, but she got 6th in the event. So the entire 'huge advantage for people born men' thing keeps getting disproved time and again.

 
 

For my Canadian siblings here, who are as ancient as I am.

"Now I've had my chances with all sorts of men But none as so fine as my lad on the river..."

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submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by gift_of_gab@lemmy.world to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

(This is a throwaway alt for my main lemmy account because I don't want to doxx myself. I'm an ally, and my daughter is transfem, but I understand I am not. If I need to remove this post, please let me know.)

Hey all

Early this year I came out as enby. The day I came out, I decided to do something with my mid-back length long hair to feel more femme. As I combed it and actually looked in the mirror for the first time in years, I saw I had thinning hair, looked with an additional mirror/my phone, and sadly came to the realization I had the first few steps of male pattern baldness. I can still 'hide' it by combing my hair back, using a small-tooth comb, etc, but soon I won't be able to hide it.

To my surprise this caused me a massive amount of dysphoria, and I realised that I had only ever been 'clocked' as feminine due to my hair, so I had made the connection between the two. I can't use the hair foams because they are toxic to cats and I would rather die than hurt my cat. I tend to react negatively to a fair number of medicines so the pill options are pretty scary, particularly with 'permanent E.D.' being out there. My doctor said I was a good candidate for microneedling/hair transplants, but those are far, far too expensive for me.

My male friends just told me to buzz it off and be done with it. My female/enby friends told me to keep it long for now and go back to my hairdresser when it becomes harder to hide.

I wanted to reach out to my transfem sisters and siblings to see:

Do if any of you had any advice for someone who feels at least part feminine, but doesn't know what to do to be more femme when shaved headed, or like when to shave their head, etc? Should I just work on my makeup/earring/accessory skills?

Thank you so much <3

Forgot to say I am from Canada if that helps any.

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