I've got a few thoughts, as someone also playing on the lowest difficulty setting (cis ~straight white male, america. (Though ex patting in mere weeks, after years!)):
Japan is an incredible place to be a tourist. Learn a few phrases (すみません、ありがとうございます, etc) and a little culture, be respectful, mind your shoes and manners. You'll do great, and there's SO much to see and appreciate. It's a brilliant culture and society, and so different in lots of ways. Very very safe.
Any Scandinavian country is VERY easy to visit as well. English speaking, easy to get to from the states. See how a proper society can function! (I am biased as a soon-to-be-Danish resident)
I'll write more soon, dinner time for me
Oh shit, you meant not to visit but to relocate to? I think I'd have a different set of answers for longer term; I was thinking for a vacation!
Yeah, lots of LGBT+ culture in Scandinavia, and a fair bit in the rest of western Europe (Paris, London, Zurich come to mind). Though I've spent plenty of time in eastern Asia (and lived near Shanghai), I don't know that scene super well there. I did karaoke with a bunch of gay people in 道頓堀 in Osaka, and it was dope, but not much else.
If you're looking for longer term living outside of NATO, I'd look to some Latin America countries, Oceania, and Switzerland.
If you're looking to just visit, Japan, Scandinavia, most of western Europe are all very easy. A few places I've been are a lot harder language wise, and I don't know that I'd wanna go right to the hard mode that is Shanghai if I hadn't even left the states