You might be looking for a KDE desktop. Many of Windows's better more modern desktop features are copied from it, and KDE is very customizable out of the box without needing to install a bunch of extensions like you do with Gnome. KDE can be customized to fit many different desktop paradigms, with the default being like Windows 10.
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I think this is just evidence that federated message boards are still very much a developing technology. Things like this are a little smoother on Mastodon, but Mastodon has been around longer.
Project Gorgon is quite impressive
Does it have much of a user base?
That also makes me wonder if there are any MUDs out there that sill have a decent-sized active user base.
This is a good way of framing the concept.
What counts as a cheap VPS these days?
That's possible with Lemmy too. Just make sure you select the "All" filter when browsing instead of just the "Local" filter and it should show you all the federated posts.
What’s the point of federation then?
There's not just one server or one entity that controls everything. If one server shuts down it doesn't shut down the entire service. And even though having multiple communities on multiple servers named the same might not be ideal, it's also a feature. If you really don't like the mods of one community on one server, you can join a similar community on a different server. You can think of the servers like cities. Every city has a game store, and this way you can access all the game stores at once. You might have a favorite community on a favorite server and that might be where you create your new posts, but you can still read and participate in the discussions going on in similar communities on all the different servers.
These days I mostly use Manjaro, though I've been thinking of giving the Suse rolling release a try.