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[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

::: TW: diabetes, death

A very dear friend of mine got very sick and I saved her life. I mean this literally- I stopped by to check on her after work because I knew she wasn't feeling well, and being a trained first responder, I recognized that she was in danger and called 911.

Getting her stabilized took a few days. I dropped everything and cared for her son (caring for special needs son during day, working night shift at night). When she was finally able to return home I was so exhausted I handed off the helping-around-the-house phase to her ex-husband and slept for a few days.

Several months later, she finds out she needs surgery. I'm asking her about if she's made plans for her recovery and she keeps not answering me. I finally make an off-hand comment about how, since she won't talk to me about it, I was assuming her other friend must be handling it, and she says something about how since I didn't help her last time, she wasn't going to bother me this time.

In absolute shock, I answered in monotone all the things I did for her. I left. I didn't talk to her much again after that. We happened to cross paths and she hugged me and thanked me for saving her life... but the truth is, while I was hurt, I knew she was septic. I knew she could've forgotten what I did. I used it as an excuse.

I'm an educated person. The thing that put her in the hospital is very, very dangerous. It was a miracle she survived, but it's one of those things where most people are dead within a year.

She made it a year... and then died shortly after. I couldn't hide my lack of surprise when the news came. I can't say I was relieved? Just that I'd already grieved. I knew this was coming, so it was as if it had already happened.

Anybody reading this; one of the compounding factors in her death was her diabetes. It was often poorly managed. If you're in your 20s and not taking your metformin, if you're in your late 20s, or 30s, and not taking your insulin, I don't care what your excuses are. I don't care what your nonsense is. (If you're too poor, that's not an excuse. That's a good reason. Only those of you who are truly too impoverished are exempt from my speech.) If you aren't treating your diabetes, you are the reason you are going to die. Sooner than you think. You're going to die, it's going to hurt, and it's going to be your own fault. And for most of you, you're signing up your family or the people you care for to suffer, and for a long time before you finally die.

I'm not going to apologize for it. I'm so heartsick from watching perfectly preventable deaths from people who just can't be bothered. I hate seeing it coming a million miles away. :::

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 2 months ago (16 children)

This is so disgusting because she totally deserved to stab him in self defense. Getting hit three times necessitates self defense.

And I, a ciswoman, laugh when shit gets real because I have weird berserker blood or something. I can't control it, so if I'm going to stab someone in self defense, I would probably be laughing, too.

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com -1 points 2 months ago

If I choose to have children, they'll be home-schooled, and their internet use will be entirely supervised until they're older. None of this, hand-a-toddler-a-tablet nonsense.

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Ya'll are forgetting it also doubles as childcare for all the workers you're employing, but paid for by the state, which is why capital was behind it.

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 2 months ago

I tried to get back into KoL, I still love the style and the humor, but that whole thing about Jick being an abusive jerk really ruined it for me.

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 50 points 2 months ago (2 children)

It's one of those old lines men trot out around other men. They exclaim that sex is their "biological imperative" to free themselves of responsibility for their desires. It's a get out of jail free card for being a reprobate.

We evolved to have an entire hierarchy of needs. These folks use those big brains of theirs (that we evolved to continue developing as children independent of our mothers specifically because we evolved to have these conversations) to obsess over sex, and to ascribe their value to that. That's their choice. But the rest of us have ascribed our value, our existence, and our legacy to mean many and varied things independent of reproductive capability.

My advice; don't try to understand things that will only make your worldview smaller.

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 months ago

I'm about to try Nutrisystem. Here's hoping.

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 24 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

This is a gross comment. Posting "people don't always choose what's good for them" under a post about women arguing that the trad wife lifestyle shouldn't be forced on them, reads as though you're defending forcing that lifestyle onto women if it's "good for them."

Eta: the fact that the person I'm replying to has been active on the fediverse since my reply but chosen not to refute my point makes me think I was right about the point they were trying to make.

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 2 months ago

They call us radical liberals for wanting to dismantle the chains of oppression and leave them dismantled. It would be impressive if it wasn't so stupid.

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Love the petty bullshit of all your replies to me telling you off, which were correct, including links to the same comment where someone says I could've made my point clearer.

Congrats. You found one person who says your reading comprehension might be understandable, out of the entirety of the rest of the commenters here, who all tell you to stop with your bullshit crusade.... and your reaction is to passive-aggressively try and shoehorn their one comment into every single other thing you reply to me with.

I'm going to tell you, even though you refuse to listen- "engagement" isn't a metric of success. If 300 people tell you to shut up, that isn't 300 new friends. That's "you are wrong," writ large. And since you don't understand this either, on any of these other posts you make- people stopping replying to you also doesn't somehow make your points true. It just means you're more exhausting than entertaining.

This is to just to say, I'm done here. I'm going to go back to blissfully ignoring you until your next bullshit move to try and defend Leni, at which point I'll probably link whatever new folks are stumbling on your ongoing nonsense to this thread. Or any others. Goodbye. Enjoy your meaningless reply. I won't be answering it.

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 months ago

It's just flickering static. You're not missing out. :)

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 2 months ago (3 children)

It is way, way past my bedtime, and my meds wore off, so out of curiosity I clicked through to the link on Reddit again and...

Yeah there's no way that the user who submitted this to 'court' isn't the same fucking person. I'm going to quote a post they made to /r/Lemmy. I don't recommend trying to read it, but if you do... yeah they're all the same person. I'm done playing nice about it. See if this doesn't read in the exact same terrible, unreadable way:

"For those of you who don't know, there was an act of terror that was on the news a few days ago where the perpetrator happened to be a Lemmy World mod, and everyone is talking about it due to this (and then another act of terror that happened in the same span of time where the perpetrator wasn't a mod but where the guy expressed support for a certain guy Lemmy loves loud and clear, which one might say makes site morals look bad). The site has been known to ban anyone who supports Musk's rhetoric as well as anyone who is registered with KF as many will always be willing to being up for ages, but what about this new evolving rhetoric? Trump is in office and just barely saved Tiktok.

On behalf of a few instances, I have been asked if you all might defederate Lemmy World, even though I have been hesitant until now to even bring it up. To me at least, I'm sure most people are going to say "apologists > murderers" as would make sense."

First of all, no one is asking this individual to represent their instance, let alone a few instances. Second, the top comment to that is literally identical to the top comments on almost everything this person writes:

"I'm confused as what you're trying to say. I tried to follow the links, but that didn't make it clearer, either."

Godspeed, /u/triangularRectum420. You represent us all today.

And CraigOhMyEggo copped a ban from Santabot on slrpnk for being an alt of Leni. That's enough for me.

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