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If I had the authority I would do a poll, registered users. We could then see of the people voting which way, who was an was not banned. We don't have that ability or that authority and at this point, it's the kind of hair-splitting BS I'm not interested in.

The umbrage I took was with people like the person I was replying to. The problem I had is with the implication that Ada is why we stopped allowing that type of post. The reason we stopped allowing that type of post stands. The reason that they're mad about being 'censored' stands. You are choosing the fight you want to have with me, and I am choosing not to fight with you. Good day.

So out of my entire comment, your response is, "well, it's not 100% of people who feel that way." No shit, Sherlock. Congrats. I'm not going to take the time, and I don't have the resources, to figure out exactly how many of those users are people who qualify for my entire discussion point of "assholes who linger" but two of the three people you just named were banned by Ada and one (the guy I was replying to) is extremely salty about it.

If you're arguing on the side of "assholes who are mad at being banned for transphobic behavior" you should consider that saying nothing at all is free, and arguing semantics in support of assholes is neither necessary or helpful.

I can cherry pick shit too!

Like db0 saying "Good decision by Ada" which is up 61, down 2! Or Noel_Skum, "How are people still struggling with the basic concept that the person who runs Blahaj can do what they want with Blahaj?" Up 54, down 1! Or pixeltree, "That’s why I chose blahaj zone as my instance. It’s nice not having to justify my existence" Or southsamurai! Or LWD! Or me!

Fuck off out of here with that disingenuous garbage.

You keep saying it over and over but the downvotes and the vast majority of replies every single time you complain disagree.

Remind me, how did that post of yours here go? Was it... -18? Were the comments overwhelmingly telling you to stuff it? Sure seems that way.

And yet all you do is continue to say the same garbage over and over. You're allowed to say that this isn't how you support trans people. But the people of blahaj disagree. You can complain that this is power tripping. But the people of YPTB disagree. You can whine that legitimate complaints are being silenced on YPTB. But the people of dbzer0 disagree. Which is why we asked to put a stop to the "waaa I was banned by Ada" posts.

It was a term coined by anarchists to describe authoritarians. You don't have to accept a label someone else uses in bad faith.

Hey, I'm a dbzer0 member (I even contribute financially to keep it running) and I'm one of the people who complained about how salty suckers like you come in all the goddamned time to complain about blahaj.

It's not because Ada is doing anything wrong, it's because enough of you don't like what she's doing that you whine and complain every chance you get. And you don't even have the decency to complain about different things!

Waaaah! Ada banned me! But I feel like I wasn't transphobic/I wasn't on blahaj when I said that/but what about free speech/but what about my feelings?

And so it's the same post, over and over. And the community rules the same way, over and over. Surprise! Ada made a safe space for blahaj members! They love what she's doing and thank her for it! No one over there is sad that you're gone! The fediverse is working as intended!

Not only that, every time one of you makes the same tired, self-centered post, it doesn't matter if you're downvoted to oblivion. It doesn't matter if the community hands your ass to you. You linger. And the next prick shows up and complains. And the community gives them the finger. But the first asshole is here still, and he tells the second asshole that they're right! And Ada is a monster! And the community is wrong!

So they linger. And the next prick comes along. And the community tells them to fuck right off. But now two assholes tell them that the community is wrong. Ada is a power tripper. Free speech. You weren't actually transphobic. You're right. Everyone else is wrong.

And now, in this very thread, we have like five assholes who all made posts to YPTB, complaining about Ada. And you're finding each other and you're turning our community into enough assholes that you'll eventually have enough to turn every. Goddamn. Post. Into your little butt-hurt pow-wow.

So not only are you posting the same tired bullshit over and over and over, even though the community has made it clear what they think- you're also using these posts to build a shitbird coalition. So. Why the ruck would anyone intentionally allow that to continue? These "Ada was mean to me" posts add nothing of value, and they empower a bitch element.

Ada and I have never exchanged words (that I remember, fediverse is a big place) and zero blahaj members have ever asked me to complain about people constantly having the same goddamn problem with blahaj. So let me just nip this in the bud right now- dbzer0 is a self-governing instance, and if enough of us think you're being a whiny bitch, no one has to come and try to dictate what is and isn't allowed in our community.

TL;DR I know you feel empowered with your handful of transphobic asshole friends here to upvote you and back you up, but you have been told, over and over, that Ada isn't doing anything wrong. And when dbzer0 community members like me complained that the blahaj posts were the same fucking post over and over, our team fixed it. I get that you don't like that, but this is the fediverse. Make your own instance to bitch about Ada and kindly fuck off.

Yes. Stop asking.

You'd have to give us your address!

The "literally tanks" part is where the word "tankie" comes from. So you do actually understand tankies.

I will never side with authoritarianism, because having supreme control over every aspect of life means that whoever has that control can and will abuse it.

M@te you're on an anarchist instance. Why are you saying "we" for tankies?

Some are, but not most (in my experience).

Way back in the day, the term was used as an insult to describe authoritarian communists. I know anarchists used it.

For today, my understanding is that 'tankie' still means authoritarians, but I've been seeing a bunch of people use 'tankie' as an insult to complain about any leftists.

None of this is at all pertinent to this thread, or to transphobia, or to Ada's action, so it really didn't belong here.

I have ADHD, and one thing that really helped me a lot was to try and build my life and my home around things that encourage the behaviors I want to engage in.

An example; the Clio Greek yogurt bars I've been eating for snacks are expensive, yes. They have wrappers which have to be thrown out, which is terrible. There's a million reasons I hate eating them. But they taste good, and the convenient packaging means that when they're in the house, I eat those instead of cheaper, less healthy candy or cookies or, and I'm very guilty of this- skipping the snack.

I have non-diabetic hypoglycemia. I can't keep skipping my snacks/meals because I'm distracted or don't want to bother with food. My doctor cannot be any clearer about the damage I'm doing to myself.

I had to accept that yes, these have wasteful packaging. Yes, they cost more than other snacks. But I'm almost 40 and I've spent my entire life proving over and over again I can't just will myself to behave differently. I need to accept that this is a medical condition, not a failure, and give myself grace.

There's about a million other things like this, but the vibe is, I will do my best. I will hold myself accountable when I fail. But I will no longer beat myself up for not being a person I've never been.

Forgot to take my vitamins for a few days? Take them now, and move forward. You aren't to blame. They taste delicious and you want to take them, so failing to do so is obviously not your fault. (Setting an alarm to take them only works for a few days before I start dismissing the alarm without actually noticing it.)

These are all things to work around. Not to hate myself for.

I have been working as a caregiver, usually for adults with developmental and intellectual disabilities, for years. If I wouldn't be mad at a person with a disability diagnosis for displaying the symptoms that are out of their control, it's hypocritical of me to do that to myself.