dumples

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[–] dumples@midwest.social 18 points 2 days ago (4 children)

First off, thank you for ejaculating responsibility. If more men ejaculated as responsibly as you the world would be a better place. You might be on the young side but vasectomies' are now reversible with a 90%+ rate. So freeze some sperm for a decade or so if you are really worried about it. So you have some options if you want kids in the future.

[–] dumples@midwest.social 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Agreed. I want to be to join them together. The only real difficulty will be for comments. How do they get federated between different instances

[–] dumples@midwest.social 8 points 2 days ago

I remember in high school we had before school weight lifting which started so early. So start with that, do a full day of class, after school sports and then homework before doing it again. Pretty crazy how many things were crammed in a day.

[–] dumples@midwest.social 5 points 3 days ago

The main thing I recommend is having house plants. They will filter out things in the air and will add additional oxygen which to our noises make things smell cleaner. I would also recommend cleaning more often especially your floors. We use Florida water whenever we clean our floors which lingers in in the air for days. We also leave bounce sheets under our garbage bag in our closed garbage can it captures the main source of bad odors for a house. We also use incense sticks in our bedroom which smells great. In the winter when the house gets very stinky and stale we like to set up a simmer pot. Its basically just a boiling pot filled with good smelling spices, fruits, and / or spices. It also humidifies the house which is great.

[–] dumples@midwest.social 3 points 1 week ago

Just adding that illithids were first introduced in this module as the aliens.

[–] dumples@midwest.social 1 points 1 week ago

Go with stealing the adventures from dragons of ice spire since they are pretty open ended and easy to write stories around.

Nothing wrong with basic dungeon design either. I have a lot of go on dungeon and find things in my custom campaign. It's a fun classic design

[–] dumples@midwest.social 12 points 1 week ago

Thank you for hosting. It's good to be on a regional site

[–] dumples@midwest.social 4 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I would double down on the starter packs such as Lost Mines of Phandelver or Dragon's of Icespire Peak. They are pretty basic and open enough that you can change or add on things that people are interested in. That only if you want to use an official campaign.

I would really recommend making your own campaign. Its really not as daunting as it seems. All you really need to do it make a single adventure and see what people like. From there see what parts people interact with and expand on that. I explicitly ask my players what they like, what they want to interact with and expand there. You can throw a bunch of ideas that you think might be fun into an area and see what ones people like. This is what I have been doing for the last few years and its been much less work than I expect. Also the player interaction is really engaging especially for new players. They can see that unlike a video game you can interact or change the world. Best of luck!!!!

[–] dumples@midwest.social 3 points 1 week ago

You are doing all of the right steps. You are clear up front about who you are and what you want. Ignore the people who unmatch and say bad things. You are telling them one thing and they are telling you everything about them (that they are assholes).

The thing about dating is every relationships will not work out until it does. So until you hit the one that last it will feel like nothing but failures. Also note that a successful relationships doesn't have to mean until one of you is dead. If you date for a while, have fun and then don't work out in the end that is a successful short term relationship if you don't damage each other in the process. Dating especially on the apps sucks for everyone. You are not alone in this regard. Keep on the apps and attempt to meet people IRL via groups, hobbies, volunteers events and other interests you have. People like happy people and people are happy when doing things they love.

[–] dumples@midwest.social 3 points 1 week ago

There are some fresh baked breads that I enjoy a few days after baking (basically sourdoughs) that are reheated to get warm and crispy again. But I agree. If I could have perfectly timed baked breads I would be so happy.

[–] dumples@midwest.social 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

According to The Journal of Sex Research in 2017 :

Paraphilic sexual interests are defined as unusual or anomalous, but their actual occurrence in nonclinical samples is still unknown. This study looked at desire for and experience of paraphilic behaviors in a sample of adult men and women in the general population. A secondary goal was to compare the results of two survey modes—traditional landline telephone versus online. A total of 1,040 persons classified according to age, gender, education, ethnic background, religious beliefs, area of residency, and corresponding to the norm for the province of Quebec were interviewed. Nearly half of this sample expressed interest in at least one paraphilic category, and approximately one-third had had experience with such a practice at least once. Voyeurism, fetishism, frotteurism, and masochism interested both male and female respondents at levels above what is usually considered to be statistically unusual (15.9%). Interestingly, levels of interest in fetishism and masochism were not significantly different for men and women. Masochism was significantly linked with higher satisfaction with one's own sexual life. As expected, the online mode generated more acknowledgment of paraphilic interest than the telephone mode. These results call into question the current definition of normal (normophilic) versus anomalous (paraphilic) sexual behaviors. (Emphasis mine)

I would say that nearly half would be common enough. Ignore a common desires just leads repression, shame and for people to seek out these desires in more dangerous locations and situations usually without consent. Those who are honest about what they want get to do this with willing partners in specifically time constrained way. This is not controlling anyone outside those situations or pretending that God says all women are submissive to men.

I would also like mention that most kink and BDSM books by professions and those in the scene will discourage the use of choking by anyone in all situations. They will go into exquisite details about to safely flog a man safe and then say how choking is dangerous and shouldn't be done. So don't say that BDSM is choking because that is generally frowned upon (although this is still debated).

Thinking about BDSM (Sadism and Machosism specifically) as violence is missing the point and thinking about it the wrong context. There a many different ritualized and formalized pain rituals that we practice as a society. Something like a marathon, cross fit, sitting for tattoos are other modern example where people voluntarily go through pain for a set period of time for fun and to see if they can do it. These are all acceptable hobbies where pain is a large portion of why people do it. Not to mention that multitude of religious rituals where someone goes through something difficult or painful in a specific context. Its the sex negativity in the cultural that says if someone may get an erection or wet thinking about this pain where we draw the line.

[–] dumples@midwest.social 9 points 1 week ago

I think what this is pointing out is that those who want to abuse will find a system that gives them systematic power to abuse. So these people will be naturally drawn to systems where they have power and a support system to protect them. So its a self selecting group who are looking to abuse are drawn to system with strong hierarchical structures.

 

cross-posted from: https://midwest.social/post/27601124

I have Ostrich fern on the front of my house that I have been waiting years to try. I keep missing the window when they are ready so I was overjoyed when I saw my fiddlehead popping up. I chopped 9, steamed with in a pan with a little butter for 5 minutes. I plated them with just a sprinkle of flaky salt and had them for lunch today.

They were great and tasted a little like asparagus but with a more savory, earthly flavor. They were amazing and totally worth the wait. I might check tomorrow to see if I can sustainability grab a few more to have them again.

10/10 would forage again.

 

I have Ostrich fern on the front of my house that I have been waiting years to try. I keep missing the window when they are ready so I was overjoyed when I saw my fiddlehead popping up. I chopped 9, steamed with in a pan with a little butter for 5 minutes. I plated them with just a sprinkle of flaky salt and had them for lunch today.

They were great and tasted a little like asparagus but with a more savory, earthly flavor. They were amazing and totally worth the wait. I might check tomorrow to see if I can sustainability grab a few more to have them again.

10/10 would forage again.

 

I am looking to purchase a crochet case from Muud for my wife's birthday. I have been looking at their website and my local yarn / craft store to find one but I am having the hardest time. I have found the Bea case but they say its for knitting needles but they have it under their crochet section. Does anyone know if this will work?

 

I am looking to purchase a crochet case from Muud for my wife's birthday. I have been looking at their website and my local yarn / craft store to find one but I am having the hardest time. I have found the Bea case but they say its for knitting needles but they have it under their crochet section. Does anyone know if this will work?

 

Preview:

Davis Moturi lay awake in bed last October, eyes on the ceiling, unable to shake the burning image of his neighbor pointing a gun directly at him through the bedroom window.

 

cross-posted from: https://midwest.social/post/25654955

Preview:

Vue Lee spent $133 less on his electric bill this February than he did in February 2024.

The savings mean a lot to Lee. He lives in Brooklyn Park and has what he calls a “typical Asian family,” with an adult daughter and grandchildren also living under his roof. The extra money can go to groceries or family fun.

“I can spend more on the grandkids,” Lee said.

 

Preview:

Vue Lee spent $133 less on his electric bill this February than he did in February 2024.

The savings mean a lot to Lee. He lives in Brooklyn Park and has what he calls a “typical Asian family,” with an adult daughter and grandchildren also living under his roof. The extra money can go to groceries or family fun.

“I can spend more on the grandkids,” Lee said.

 

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On one of the first warm days in Minneapolis this year, the doors were propped open in most businesses near the intersection of Lake Street and Lyndale Avenue. That’s why employees at the store Smitten Kitten were able to notice a woman slumped over in her parked car outside the shop.

 

Preview:

On one of the first warm days in Minneapolis this year, the doors were propped open in most businesses near the intersection of Lake Street and Lyndale Avenue. That’s why employees at the store Smitten Kitten were able to notice a woman slumped over in her parked car outside the shop.

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