cowboycrustation

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Nah you belong here, this community is for everybody who falls under the transmasc umbrella. Welcome to the community

Tumblr has a lot of LGBTQ people, but is a text based platform as opposed to a short form video platform.

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Not doing too well right now. Currently on winter break so I'm isolated. I think things will get better for me mentally after the break. Really want top surgery but I don't know if my ability to get it will be impacted by all the stuff after January or not. At this point I probably need a break from the news and social media and to go on hikes. Just have to put one foot in front of the other.

I did finally get all of my legal documents updated (minus birth certificate BC my birth state won't let me), so yay for that.

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I wish there were more studies on it. Had no idea that was a thing.

To add to this, make more friends. That can help fill the loneliness void.

I'm straight so not exactly the same situation but I recommend that you don't let it take too much of your mental energy and do things that make you happy in the meantime. If you keep looking the odds are that you'll find someone eventually, just takes time.

Can relate to the idea that it would be easier not being trans. It makes dating a lot more complicated to navigate and I've struggled with the idea that being trans makes me less desirable and attractive. Doesn't help that I'm really bad at picking up if someone's flirting with me and feel guilty if I do think that and what if she's just being friendly. Ultimately I realized that the right person isn't gonna care that I'm trans and will love me for my full self.

Hi fracture. Definitely can relate to the fear of scaring people as you get bigger. I haven't been lifting weights or anything but it's been something to get used to that people are generally more afraid of men.

You definitely should make a post about it on here if you've got interesting findings from your maximizing your bottom growth research. I'd be interested in reading.

And thanks for the appreciation. I'm grateful that you're in this community too.

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I'm curious how long have you been on T

I'm a binary trans man, 19 years old. Been about a year on T. Socially transitioned a while ago. Shaving my face gives me gender euphoria. Also building fires for some reason. I'm from the deep south US. I wanna see more trans masculine content and perspectives on here cuz the population is overwhelmingly transfemme. My hobbies include tinkering with Linux and computers, audio production, drawing, cooking, and tomfoolery. Want to get into outdoors stuff more.

[–] cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (12 children)

From my understanding that's pretty rare. Also know plenty of cis women who've gotten that from age and/or childbirth.

It's pretty crazy how transphobes (and especially TERFs) will use the idea that society hates feminity and accuse transmascs of transitioning to escape those constraints and stigma (ignoring the fact that being trans puts a lot of stigma on you). All the while accusing trans women of doing it to prey on women and other ridiculous accusations. Can't win either way, in their eyes.

I'm a binary trans man. I haven't expierenced the things that you're talking about. I definitely agree that there's a transfemme-centric point of view both on Lemmy and the wider trans discourse, but I have confronted that many times and people have always been open to listen to my expierence as a trans man.

I'm sorry that people have treated you unkindly and invalidated your expierences in the past. That sucks. It doesn't mean that's a universal thing that trans men expierence, though.

 

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/15223477

We need more transmasculine people (and people in general) on here. If you know a transmasculine person please get them to check this place out. Spread the word!

 

We need more transmasculine people (and people in general) on here. If you know a transmasculine person please get them to check this place out. Spread the word!

 

Annoyed with tgsupply for very long order wait times and being out of stock of almost everything I was gonna get but this article is helpful nonetheless.

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My progress with T (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by cowboycrustation@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/ftm@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

It's been about six and a half months that I've been on T and I have seen great progress.

I have been on 25mg of 1% gel this entire time, but my T levels (last time they were checked, which has been a while) have shown up in normal cis male levels, so it seems that my body is processing it as it would a normal dose (50mg of 1%).

My voice has changed some and singing got a lot harder. It's gotten better since but is still not where I would like it to be. I hear it'll get better with time. I think I will likely end up a baritone (pre-t was a tenor on the high end)

Been getting hairier, but not much substantial growth on my face. Mainly on my stomach. Arm and leg hair has gotten thicker but since it's blond it's not very noticeable.

Shoulders look somewhat broader. My chest has gotten substantially smaller and looks more like moobs than boobs now. Other than that body fat redistribution has been slow and is not happening as quickly as I would like.

Self image has improved a lot. I can stand to look at myself in the mirror without immediately recoiling now. I can actually bear to look at photographs of myself now, even when I'm not binding and am in PJs. I see me in those photos, a guy, not some external otherworldly being who I don't immediately recognize. That has made me have to face some of my flaws that I previously ignored and discounted because I was so separated from my sense of self. It's painful, but the good kind that helps you to grow.

Bottom growth has definitely happened, and my junk is definitely bigger. Acts more like a penis now with erections and the likes. Gets a prickly feeling from time to time which is uncomfortable. I'm assuming that means growth.

Face looks more masc, acne is different. I get neck acne now and it tends to be flatter than it was before.

Definitely have boy stank now. I smell pretty bad after less time sweating. More "sour" body odor.

My hairline is slowly receding. It looks good for now but it will likely progress till I'm bald. Oh well.

All and all, I feel like it takes a lot less effort to pass now. That frees up a lot of physical and emotional effort that I previously devoted to passing and I can now live more freely. I've still got a long ways to go but progress is slow and steady.

 

I recently got this STP from rodeoh and I'm having trouble with leakage. Granted, I've only used it a handful of times in the shower, but I find my stream is too strong and it overflows the basin of the STP before it can exit the shaft and then it leaks out everywhere.

What are some tips to mitigate that? (Additional general STP tips are also highly welcome)

 

If you've found some new resources regarding being trans (any aspect of it), link to 'em down below. Sharing is caring, woo hoo.

Personal tips/anecdotes of things you've found useful are also welcome.

 

User dandelion posted this link in a comment on MTF, and I figured y'all would be interested in this (especially to the eggs out there).

 

Hi

 

Howdy y'all,

Linkopenschest.wav is stepping down as head mod for this community, so I have inherited this position. I need more people to help me co-mod this community since I am not the most active these days. Comment below if you would like to be a mod.

Mod requirements:

  1. Known member of this community
 

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/13998559

Reaching Out For Help

After much consideration and fighting with my brain, I've decided that it's okay to ask for help in hard situations. So, I'm making this in hope that I receive at least a little bit of help. I'm asking for money, friends, and any advice you can give me. Everything counts and will help me during this rather terrible time. I'm Uni (name TBD) and I'm a 16 y/o transgirl unfortunately situated in the USA. You may know me as a regular on the Blahaj Matrix chats going by "Miss Universe".

So a little bit (a lot?) of backstory to sort of explain my current situation. My egg cracked October last year and it was both the best and worst thing that has happened in my life so far. Being a minor means that I can't really do anything about the fact that my egg cracked, I'm fully relying on the people around me to help me (which has failed). Put simply, as a minor I have absolutely no control over my body or my life, I have no money, no experience, and nowhere to go.

I came out to my mother and step-father (my parents are divorced) February this year, and while they seemed to be supportive at first they semi-recently turned on me and have been mostly unsupportive since then.

As for my father and step-mother, they are both actively transphobic republicans. I have no plans on coming out to them until after I turn 18, and it would be unsafe to do so before then.

Basically, as of now I have basically no support from anybody in my life and I'm completely trapped as my dysphoria gets worse with each passing day.

With my situation sort of explained(?), why am I actually here? Pretty much I'm here because I need money. Money for clothes, makeup, just stuff that can hopefully help me alleviate some of my dysphoria until I'm able to afford to do so myself (which as a minor is difficult). And also I suppose gas, in case it comes to it and I need to run away, even for a short period. I'm also looking for advice, I don't really know what to do and it would be really nice to have at least some semblance of what I could be doing right now.

I don't really know if any of that made sense, I'm bad at organizing my thoughts and even worse at asking for help. If you have any questions post them in the comments and I can probably answer them.

You can support me here on Buy Me a Coffee if you so wish, and/or with advice in the comments. Every donation counts.

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