compostgoblin

Came here to recommend Behind the Bastards and Cool People Who Did Cool Stuff!

Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition, to wit:

There must be in-groups whom the law protectes but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect.

If you haven’t read “A Libertarian Walks Into a Bear”, I highly recommend it

Thank you!

Ngl, this terrifies me. Because I know exactly how dumb I was ten years ago. And then I agonize about the decisions I make today - am I going to look back in ten years and feel the regret about who I am now that I do about who I used to be?

It can be paralyzing, or I end up tending to make the safest, least risky choice, for fear of “doing it wrong” rather than what might make me happiest or serve me best

Millions of voters wanted it. They don’t realize that the circle of acceptable in-groups only gets smaller. They’re cheering at the cruelty today, but it won’t take long to catch them too.

Has Mozilla indicated any openness to taking that approach with Firefox?

From an objective outside perspective, you’re right. I need to take care of my own happiness, and my wife has a right to leave a relationship that doesn’t meet her needs. I suppose I need to just keep transitioning at my pace and keep communication with my wife open about how we’re both feeling. I just hope that we can find a way for me to be myself and still have a happy relationship. It’s just hard to imagine losing so close to me that I’ve been with for so long. If there’s anyone I would sacrifice my transition for, it’s her, but I also understand that not being true to myself would be doing her a disservice

Thank you 💜 it sounds like you have a wonderful partner! I hope that my wife and I can have the same experience. She really is incredible and my best friend. It’s hard for me to accept right now that I might have to be okay with separating if she just isn’t attracted to femme-me, but you’re right, if there are needs she has that I can’t meet, I can’t deny her that. I hope, though, that no matter what happens, we can stay in each others’ lives in a big way.

Thank you 💜 I fortunately have a great individual therapist who does have experience working with other trans and queer clients, but I think you’re right, that a trans-affirming couples therapist is probably a good idea. I know the local LGBTQ resource center has some recommendations, l’ll have to check it out.

I also think you’re right that I shouldn’t prejudge anything. It’s obviously been a tumultuous few months, and I probably need to be more patient with my wife coming to terms with everything. Like I mentioned, she’s autistic, so even smaller changes can be hard for her. It’s just difficult for me, because I really want that reassurance that our relationship will survive (or hopefully thrive), and even if we do get to that place, it’s going to take some time.

Prompt “engineering” goes to show that you can stick the word engineer on the end of anything to make it sound official and important. Talking to a chatbot is not engineering of any sort