choihanna

joined 3 weeks ago
[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 1 points 3 weeks ago

Honestly I might give up on it, it's not something that you really need to live πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Okay the issue here is, I've done this before and it didn't work. And right now I'm not on a stage where I want to expose my transness to my social circle, what's most likely to happen if I tell a guy who is into me is that he will be shocked and tell a lot of people. Also there's barely any men interested in my hobbies unless they're gay

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 0 points 3 weeks ago

Why match then? Lol

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 weeks ago

Uhhh yes, but maybe I'm confused about why they don't give signals of not being a good fit untill they stop talking out of nowhere. Maybe it's my personality I don't know

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Honestly? No, my hobbies are gardening, reading and writing, and most guys are into videogames and gym. Like all of them it just feels so stupid how a lot of them like those two things. But at the same time I might not see a man with my same hobbies as masculine, which is a huge turn off for me.

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

But sexuality is not just a label, and it sounds like internalized homophobia. If you're attracted to a male of any kind you're at least bisexual and there's nothing wrong with it.

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 4 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

Thanks 🫢🏻 something that I noticed that makes them leave a lot is when I ask if they're bisexual. Because in my mind if they're willing to have a relationship with a trans woman then they must be bisexual? It's just an opinion I don't understand why lose interest just because of that

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 4 points 3 weeks ago

Uhh no actually I have very bad grammar because I'm not a native speaker, and I'm the opposite of autistic I'm very talkative and social πŸ˜…

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 6 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Thanks for the honesty, yes I know it and it's understandable. What I don't understand is why stay several dates?

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 weeks ago

I don't know, it does seem dumb but that's what they do

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 1 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I haven't met any man yet who told me he got a lot of matches from older married women, maybe I need more male friends but I haven't heard much of it πŸ˜…

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip -3 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

Men do the same, actually even worse because I've met a few who are already married 😭

 

So before anything I'm a trans woman (20), I do not claim to be a real woman or try to put women down or mock them. So please I'd like to ask you to abstein from comments about it because I already know what I am.

I've been trying dating apps because they feel safer than just dating people from your daily life when I was a teen (friends and classmates).

I do have a note on my profile that notifies these men about what I am before they can chat with me, some unmatch, others will say bad stuff before leaving, but another big amount stay. Everything goes fine we chat for a long time, we have a few dates, but in the end they all seem to lose interest at some point.

It just makes me so tired of meeting a lot of different men every month. I don't understand what they want.

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