Here are two lies that is it useful to believe:
- My current situation and the past is/was entirely beyond my control. Luck, fate, the system, and actions of others put me here now.
- My future strongly depends on My decisions. They are the only things that will get me from where I am to where I want to be, and the first decision is where I want to be next.
But, maybe that's just my privilege talking. My skills, interests, and opportunities aligned well with the system for at least 30 years.
Yes, the resolution to the "paradox" of tolerance is that (a) "the intolerant" is anyone that would deny human rights to any other human (b) the intolerant must be denied political power since they will use it to create an intolerant society.
Tolerance doesn't justify political violence.
However, defense of self or others CAN justify violence against the intolerant. The threat of increased stochastic violence due to inflammatory rhetoric is not as clear as a person stating their intent to kill and then brandishing a firearm, but both can be mortal threats. At the very least acts of political violence CAN be justified by the actor to a jury of their peers. Denying a political violence can ever be justified (I'm looking at you Bernie) ignores history and supports every authoritarian regime.
I'm not saying that the Kirk murder was justified, but ... I'd be willing to hear a defendant out as a jurist or jury member.