boonhet

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[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I never said it doesn't happen. I said it's overblown.

Online, literally anything a man has ever said seems to be described as mansplaining now. Offline, I've barely heard anyone complain about it - only talking about car mechanics I believe. And I've got some people in my circles who are pretty vocal about gender dynamics issues.

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 5 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

The term literally is sexist because it implies it's only bad when men do it. These days it's used to describe any time a man explains anything. It's lost any meaning it may have had originally.

White knightism is sexism in its own right too, because it brings to the table the assumption that women are weaker and need protection, thus not equal to men,

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 5 points 3 weeks ago

Maybe it's just the people I know? Could even just be the upbringing in a formerly soviet nation, it used to be pretty socially conservative in many ways here. Younger people are starting to break out of that pattern luckily. All I know is, in my generation and older ones, on average, guys tend to be more loud and in your face, more likely to interrupt you while talking.

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 2 points 3 weeks ago (8 children)

Bit of a difference between "mansplaining" and the other terms in that the other terms mention the target of the action, leaving the actor ambiguous. Anyone could be anti-semitic or bash gay people. Mansplaining is a term specifically coined to say that only men can perform condescending infodumps. What's worse, nowadays it's often used just for men explaining things they're not sure if the other person knows. Some of us are also neurodivergent and have trouble picking up even fairly obvious social cues. I know it's a problem for me with ADHD and I know there's also "tism infodumps". Both disorders affect women too (and ADHD in women is underdiagnosed), but I've never heard "womansplaining" used as a term, nor do I think it would be appropriate. It'd be a hella sexist term.

I'm sure there's quite a few men out there who legitimately are so condescending, they feel they have to explain basic things to "dumb women". But I'm willing to bet most cases of "mansplaining" are some guy being an idiot and missing hints from the other party in the conversation, as well as just misjudging what is common knowledge and what isn't.

It doesn't help that women are just more polite and more likely to let you finish talking even when they know everything lol

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 1 points 3 weeks ago

Ideapad? Thinkpad keycaps look different IMO

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 1 points 3 weeks ago

I've personally got no problem talking to people or moving my own weight but if I've been on foot the whole day I'd rather sit down than stand in line

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 12 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

With the power imbalance between the two it feels like a situation where consent is impossible

Technically speaking, POTUS is such a powerful position, you can't actually have consensual sex in that role, except maybe with a long term partner from before the whole ordeal.

Lewinsky herself said that in the moment she wanted it, but in retrospect, Clinton should've known better

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 3 points 3 weeks ago

Oh yeah I... just assumed warm.

Hot sounds weird. Foul, even. I'll bring an Ouija board next time I go to the cemetery, grandpa used to heat up his beer, I need to know his reasoning

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 4 points 3 weeks ago

That $15 plan was supposed to not have a data cap (for presidential plans, hence broadband)

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 1 points 3 weeks ago

Sounds like you're making better health decisions than I am. Hope you manage to keep them up!

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 14 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (8 children)

A lot of these people were in the military before the second Trump admin made it obvious that they're going to have to work for an actual fascist dictatorship.

Secondly, for a lot of young people, the G.I Bill is the only real way to afford an education. You know that whole student debt issue that is crippling people financially for decades? Joining the military is a way to bypass that.

[–] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 1 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Paper menu has accessibility issues too. You have to stand up and go to the counter, for one. You have to talk to someone.

For different reasons, physical or mental, those aren't great for a lot of people.

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