blarghly

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[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Another thing that helps is being an adult. Most people develop their social anxiety during their school years, where they are forced into an institution with a bunch of little psychopaths and never get the chance to reinvent themselves or meet completely new social groups.

Once you graduate high school, most people are much more mature, you can choose where and when to meet people so that they will likely align with your values and interests, and if you don't like a particular social group or they don't like you, you can just try out other ones.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

This has almost never been my experience.

Much more often, different versions of software dependencies, operating system differences, artifacts left by other software/previous versions, etc, result in mysterious errors. 5 hours of rabbitholes later, I find a comment on github explaining that x broke y and they'll fix it in the next release... 7 years ago. At which point I throw my computer out the window and leave to live the rest of my life in the forest.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

I mean, kind of. I wouldnt say extroverts, so much as "people with good/decent social skills". Introversion/extroversion is a sliding scale, not a dichotomy, and it refers more to your propensity to gain or lose energy from social interactions - not your ability to socialize.

While many more introverted people find socializing more difficult in general, there is no reason why they can't develop the skill.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 10 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

Its a good first step, but the r value of reflectix isnt nearly as much as foam board or fiberglass. Foam board has a reflective coating on the outside that will do the same thing (reflecting IR radiation). But if you have some lying around and it works, then it works.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 33 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

The joke is that blues music is traditionally associated with poverty, hardship, racism, and social inequality, while the scene is of wealthy white people in their opulant home. The joke is about how out of touch the privileged are.

It helps if you imagie the woman speaking in an upper class british accent, possibly after voicing her opinion about "those dreadful coloured people around the corner."

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 12 points 11 hours ago

If a couple has been dating for less than one year, and I see them bicker or fight, I think they should break up. Not because they shouldn't bicker or fight. But because I shouldn't be seeing it. You shouldn't be letting your personal squabbles spill out into the nice potluck the rest of us are having. If I see this happen, I assume that either (1) the couple has some major incompatibility that is so contentious that it can't help but spill out in inappropriate moments or (2) one or both of the couple lacks the maturity to discuss their personal problems in private like adults.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 9 points 12 hours ago (6 children)

I mean, this is essentially all hiring processes.

The way to get actually good employees is to be the sort of place that actual good employees want to work for. Good pay, good work-life balance, good managers and company culture, work that is enjoyable and meaningful. Then, you hire through social networks. The founders start off as people who meet through informal social networks. They hire their friends. And then they ask their friends for further recommendations. The best way to know if someone is a good hire is if you have actually worked with them before. And at this point, the interview is really just hanging out, shaking hands, and having lunch before you sign some paperwork.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 4 points 12 hours ago

The largest cults last a long time. Most cults consist of 2 people, a leader and a follower, and fizzle out when the acid wears off.

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 6 points 12 hours ago

Okay, so first of all, if the two of you aren't in physical proximity, the odds of having any kind of real relationship are vanishingly small. So I would recommend writing off this whole "relationship" from the get-go.

Second, while compliments and comments in the moment may feel nice, the emotional rollercoaster doesn't feel nice. It is good that you recognize this. Now you need to get off the rollercoaster.

Third, a lot of people are talking about what her intentions might be. My policy is to be honest and to generally assume honesty. She says she is complimenting you to help boost your self esteem. This is very nice of her, and you should appreciate her kindness, even if it is misguided.

Forth, the important part - action. Tell her that you appreciate that she is trying to boost your mood, but that you've found that the emotional rollercoaster it puts you on makes you feel worse overall. Ask her to stop. If she doesn't stop, tell her firmly "I've asked you to stop doing this. Please stop now or I will stop talking to you." If she continues, stop talking to her. If this is a problem within your group of friends, reach out to friends individually and explain the situation from your perspective, and ask for their understanding as you maintain your personal boundaries.

This should solve your immediate problem. However, you have a bigger problem. Why are you even hung up on this girl at all? She doesn't live near you. You don't seem to know what she looks like. She is violating your boundaries and making you feel bad. Why do you give a single flying fuck about her? Well, the answer is obvious to everyone here - she is the only woman in your life who has shown you any kind of romantic interest lately. You have no options, so even a bad option is enough for you to get all emotionally tangled up. And the solution to this problem is equally obvious: go find more options. It's like you're asking us if it's safe to eat the moldy bread in your cabinet because you forgot grocery stores exist. There are 4 billion other women on the planet - go talk to one who isn't on the internet!

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago

Eh, I'm proud to be an American. But I also generally like the people around me, and when I think of "Americans", I think of my friends who I like. I'd also note that I'm pretty proud to be a Coloradan. Our state government kicks ass!

[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 0 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

lol. iamverysmart.

Seriously dude, look up epistemic humility. Will things be bad in the future? Yes, in some ways. Will things be good in the future? Yes, in some ways. What ways? I don't know. No one knows. That's how time works. If I'm going to take you seriously, post your polymarket track record that shows you outperforming everyone else. Until then, you're just a doomer jerking off to the apocalypse.

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