This has almost never been my experience.
Much more often, different versions of software dependencies, operating system differences, artifacts left by other software/previous versions, etc, result in mysterious errors. 5 hours of rabbitholes later, I find a comment on github explaining that x broke y and they'll fix it in the next release... 7 years ago. At which point I throw my computer out the window and leave to live the rest of my life in the forest.
Another thing that helps is being an adult. Most people develop their social anxiety during their school years, where they are forced into an institution with a bunch of little psychopaths and never get the chance to reinvent themselves or meet completely new social groups.
Once you graduate high school, most people are much more mature, you can choose where and when to meet people so that they will likely align with your values and interests, and if you don't like a particular social group or they don't like you, you can just try out other ones.