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I originally posted the following comment as a reply to another comment that has now been removed. I'm reposting it as I think it still has value to the current conversation under this post.

This type of "party game" is still at it's core objectifying women. They may be generated images but the whole project is aimed at passing judgement on women you would rate as fuckable or not. It's encouraging behaviour that makes women feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

This type of objectifying isn't exclusive to this project. Groups of men will rate and objectify women casually and frequently. I've worked in the trades and have been surrounded by such talk from men. The more normalized this type of behaviour is, the easier it is to consider women as less than human. Feeling like a replaceable tool with no sense of self or sense of worth is dehumanizing.

They could have chosen to base this project on just about anything else in our world. We have animals, nature, technology and so much more to try this kind of thing out on. Yet, what seems like another "tech bro" idea was focused on hyper sexualizing and objectifying women as if they were just another thing for men's entertainment.

Simply, it's gross behaviour. Just because they are generated images does not make it any less gross or acceptable. People are not objects for another person's amusement and we should not encourage such behaviour.``

This type of "party game" is still at it's core objectifying women. They may be generated images but the whole project is aimed at passing judgement on women you would rate as fuckable or not. It's encouraging behaviour that makes women feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

This type of objectifying isn't exclusive to this project. Groups of men will rate and objectify women casually and frequently. I've worked in the trades and have been surrounded by such talk from men. The more normalized this type of behaviour is, the easier it is to consider women as less than human. Feeling like a replaceable tool with no sense of self or sense of worth is dehumanizing.

They could have chosen to base this project on just about anything else in our world. We have animals, nature, technology and so much more to try this kind of thing out on. Yet, what seems like another "tech bro" idea was focused on hyper sexualizing and objectifying women as if they were just another thing for men's entertainment.

Simply, it's gross behaviour. Just because they are generated images does not make it any less gross or acceptable. People are not objects for another person's amusement and we should not encourage such behaviour.

I have no idea. I only use instagram to view tattoo artist portfolios and local techno party announcements. I just need to see the latest posts without signing up so I'm indifferent to it being open or close sourced for my needs.

I use iganony.io

It has a habit or showing a couple old posts before showing the most recent posts but it works well enough for me

I recently recieved a bit of offhand news that has made me a lot more relaxed about an important meeting I have at the end of September.

I was speaking with a person I used to work with about a trip he and his fiancé took recently when he caually mentioned out of nowhere that the HR manager at work retired at the end of July. That random little fact sent my mind into a whirlwind for a couple days.

Just over a year ago I had been terminated from my job as an apprentice at a place that builds automation assembly lines. That termination came after I had brought up concerns and frustrations with how the company had begun treating people after covid arrived. I also brought up concerns about workplace culture and how toxic it had become.

I had been terminated approximately 10 months after the monthly employee meeting where I first confronted the GM (General Manager) about how apprentices were being treated poorly and not learning the proper skills. This is important because once people start retiring, there is going to be a huge skill and knowledge gap.

After that monthly meeting, I had a meeting with the fairness committee followed by a meeting with the HR manager with the fairness committee member on "my side." That second meeting was basically me getting belittled and blamed for 3.5 hours.

Unhappy with the results and dealing with my declining mental health, I reached out to the corporate HR manager about the abusive management at my company and this manager made a huge effort to help me. She taught me all my rights as an employee, encouraged me to get help through the corporate employee hotline and when that failed, set up a meeting with me and her boss while beginning an investigation into the abusive environment at my company. Unfortunately before that meeting, my company terminated my employment.

I retained a lawyer and after about a year of some back and forth (things got delayed significantly because my lawyer got covid) I finally submitted my wrongful termination case against my company to the labour board. Up until this point I felt so uncertain and stressed about everything and was really doubting my decisions.

About a month after my submission to the labour board, my company replied back with 16 pages trying to have my case thrown out and attacking my character. They also responded through an outside law firm and not the corporate in-house lawyers. About 1.5 months after my submission, the HR manager retires. I found out she was scheduled to retire in 2024.

Suddenly my mediation meeting with the labour board and my company doesn't seem so intimidating. Corporate refused to legally support my company and the HR manager retires early and is now back home in Central America. A key figure in all of this who conveniently will not be able to attend the labour board meeting.

I have no idea if those two things are related to my case and I may never truly know but it sure is convinient for me. I did leave that company in good standing with corporate so I'm left to believe that corporate has been taking serious action with my company. Action that may have also included updating workflow, security and logistics (costing the GM and management huge money), and cracking down on workplace safety issues (costing the GM and management even more money).

After covid arrived, my dislike of corporations only grew but I think it's pretty humorous to watch corporate turn it's back on my company. It's beautiful in it's own bureaucratic-hellscape kind of way.

My goal at the labour board meeting is going to get my job back and hopefully getting a public apology at the monthly employee meeting while sending a problematic manager to a training course regarding abusive behaviour. After being forced to confront my own mortality through their abusive and negligent behaviour, money means nothing to me. No amount will bring back the dignity this place took from me and the others who work there. I'm hoping my actions are able to throw some power back into the hands of the employees and other workers there as well as bring more awareness to mental health issues.

And to think, I probably wouldn't have gone down this path if it weren't for the head fairness committee member telling me that I should just suck it up. That I should just wait for all these problematic people to retire. He told me I couldn't change anything. His attempt to de-escalate the situation by demotivating me may have backfired slightly.

I have no idea, it's a bush in my mom's garden that's about 6ft/1.8m high and creates so many new flowers every day. Instead of a name I'll distract you with two bee buts in a flower

I've been using iganony.io and it does the job for me. For some reason it always shows a couple old posts before the latest posts. Picuki.com stopped working for me at some point and I assume it was a Firefox extension that was causing issues. I was too lazy to do any troubleshooting to fix it.

I only ever use it to see my tattoo artist's work and grab the progress videos of my sleeve she is currently working on. My experience with Instagram and viewers are super limited so I can't really say if iganony.io is good or not.

I ran into an issue involving just this problem a few years ago. I met someone while I was living abroad. We fell in love but we both had to go back to our respective countries eventually. We tried a long distance relationship for a short whole but agreed it wasn't going to work out so we just remained good friends and spoke often to each other over video call for a number of years.

When we first met, I found it super easy to talk with her because I was able to read her emotions from her facial expressions. She had a very expressive face which made it easy for me to understand subtext with her compared to other people. When we started talking over video call, I was still able to read her face so the conversation quality didn't drop any noticeable amount.

About half way into 2020 she moved to another country and wanted to have voice calls as her living conditions changed. Between standard voice quality loss in modern technology, my brains voice audio processing issues (voices in noisy backgrounds are muffled or garbled but I can hear a coin drop in a noisy automated manufacturing plant) and the loss of using video chat felt like ~~I couldn't talk or understand her anymore.~~ I was using more mental energy to talk with her.

Without video, I could no longer read her face. I could no longer understand her. She did not want to express her feelings verbally to help me understand things which didn't help. It was a very confusing experience at the time because I didn't understand what was happening until I was able to piece it together at a later time.

Turns out I hate phone calls because I can't read a person's face to help build extra context about what a person is saying. I may not always get context right in face to face conversations but any little bit of information really helps. Facial expressions, body posture, tone and whatever else a person does while talking is all super useful information for me and a phone call strips all of that away.

Eye contact is pretty bad but I'm more self accepting of bad eye contact. The loss of all those visual cues due to a phone call is stressful for me.

We may never know the true intentions behind the attacks because we aren't Orcas. That should not mean we must escalate the situation between humans and orcas. Using more noise and susbtances to fend off one species may have unintended affects in other species or ecosystems.

If they are targetting objects that are luxuries of humans (for example a boat or yatch) then we humans should consider just not participating in those activities. We should not be introducing more sophisticated solutions which may come with even more unforeseen consequences. In this case, I believe less is more. The less we humans invade their space, the less likely either human or orca is to be injured or killed. If this is just an Orca cultural fad then it may mean this destructive behavior will disappear quickly if they are left alone.

Human enjoyment or satisfaction does not have to come from distressing or endangering other life. Sentient or not.

Regardless of Orca intention or perspective, I'm still rooting for the Orcas. It's their home. We humans have caused way more damage to their homes than they have to our boats and yachts. Their damage to our stuff is totally justified in my eyes.

I don't think it has to do with a "whales are sacred" mentality. Humans with our modern technologies are invasive, loud and destructive. We travel across the whole world in loud, dangerous, harmful and polluting vehicles. We also take from this planet far more than we return with absolutely no respect for the complex and diverse yet fragile ecosystems we live within.

Here we have a species of dolphin that are working together to try and stop another invasive species from threatening their home. Humans have a long and rich history with the sea but we are still land animals that are invading and disrupting their home and way of life. These Orcas are defending themselves. As humans, our reaction should be to acknowledge their right to defend themselves and leave their home alone. We should not escalate by introducing even more noise and substances. Instead it would be wiser to look within ourselves and see that our luxuries should not be causing so much distress to other sentient life.

I personally believe the Orcas and any other wild life have the right to defend their home just like any indigenous people who want to live in balance with nature. We should be stewards of this planet and respect the life it gave us by respecting the life around us. We should not be waging active or passive wars on everything above or below the waters.

This year I built a vegetable garden and purposely seeded the top soil with clover. The garden has become more wild and "overgrown" looking but I think it adds a bit more wild beauty to it. There's a list of reasons why I chose to add clover as ground cover including:

• Clover bringing nitrogen into the soil
• Clover roots to help loosen the soil to make it easier for my crops to spread their roots
• By creating a barrier to retain moisture in the soil
• To promote a place for microfauna to live within the soil. Healthy soil is alive with small bugs like springtails who feast on mold and funguses and poop out nutrients that are easily absorbed by plant roots
• To promote a place for larger insects like isopods and beetles to help break down organic material. Similar to springtails, the waste, as well as old molts and waste from dead insect bodies help feed plant roots.
• Clover roots will help loosen any compacted soil allowing crop roots to spread easier
• When planting new crops, you can simply dig up an area of clover and mix it back into the ground. By doing this, you are turning that clover into fertilizer as it gets broken down by insects and microfauna
• All parts of clover are edible. Strange to even think of it as a weed in my personal opinion

Something important that modern agriculture seems to overlook is soil health. Healthy soil is alive with microfauna and microfauna is diverse and complicated like any other ecosystem. The soil will be more like a desert without ground cover because there's no safe places for all the tiny life that gets easily overlooked. I even added some large stones and stepping stones because insects love hiding under things like that. My goal is to promote enough life to ensure a healthy, living soil that won't rely heavily on outsourced fertilizers. Composting would be a great compliment to my garden if I got off my ass and built one.

Modern agriculture and farming/gardening practices rely too heavily on outsourced fertilizers and seems to disregard soil health altogether. It's quite sad to see how damaging and nutrient draining monoculture crops are to our precious top soil.

The whole idea of using clover as ground cover is a mix of knowledge from indigenous histories, my bioactive terrariums I have as a hobby and other random bits of knowledge gathered from the internet over the years. This is the first year I've tried using clover as ground cover so I have yet to see how effective it all is but it's a beautiful experiment in progress at least. Since I added fresh compost and horse manure this year, everything is growing great so I won't be able to properly assess things until next year or the year after but I look forward to it.

The supervisor in question definitely trash talked all of his "subordinates" but I don't think it was particularly effective in this instance. He is past retirement age and his interpersonal skills are completely lacking which made him universally hated among workers and management. But he always said yes to management. So that makes him a useful idiot.

If I worked in the office, I could definitely see this tactic being more effective. It was very common to see trade supervisors battling it out with other trade supervisors. The workers were all united through misery.

The majority of the trades people I worked with were hyper focused on their masculinity by focusing their lives around marriage, children, cars, property and expensive things to express themselves. All those things require money. The people I worked with always needed money.

So when all the answers to your problems is more money, how do you understand and treat someone whose motivations are not driven by money? How do you react when someone challenges authority and is still not motivated by money? Even when I plainly tell them why I am acting the way I am, they truly have a difficult time understanding me because money is so important to them.

They also believe that change is impossible so I'm an idiot for trying. Personally, there's nothing more motivating to me than being told I can't do something.