Talked with a friend today and casually mentioned the book, and she got furious and mentioned a bunch of problems with the book and the author. I advise people to look for criticism about this book before using it. The only specific thing I'll point out here is this:
"In 2019, a group of certified NVC trainers published a #MeToo statement honouring Marshall Rosenberg's legacy but also acknowledging he had slept with students at some times of his life."
I hesitate to post both of these, because I don't wanna get into conspiracy stuff. But both are not well known, and I hear a lot it keeps getting deleted.
Many questions about the case of: Gabriela Rico Jiménez
Warning: pretty dark rabbit hole
And quite a lot of stuff pointing towards Ghislaine Maxwell having been a reddit supermod: https://www.reddit.com/r/conspiracy/comments/r45a5n/here_is_the_evidence_that_reddit_user_maxwellhill/
Aside from all the things that are instant turn-offs...
Being hopeful.
Also seem to get drawn to BPD
Sounds very psychosis inducing.
The ability to create black holes. Just wanna fuck around and find out.
Hmm, reminds of this part of the Narcissistic Personality Inventory
I think this is an excellent question. People often forget about threats to families/friends, and only consider their own lives.
It's of course very context-dependent and I'm sure different people have different beliefs. For example, if your friends and families are ardently against the government and would be willing to risk a lot, and you are having an impact, you might just ignore the threats.
And in a way I think if more people think like that, it's best, as that makes blackmail to friends/family worthless.
In most other scenarios, I would give them one chance. After all there is other good that can be done in this world. However, if they show that they can't be trusted. I'd consider that I have nothing left to lose, and go hard.
Yuuuup, I have that while doing yoga alone or trying to meditate.
If it's gripping, and I don't get distracted by something else more gripping, I'll burn myself out binging everything. ADHD and OCD might play a role.
If you want to leave her, I think that's what you should do. Her actions as a result of your boundaries are not your responsibility. She has her needs, and you have yours. You are not her therapist. You can still say this in a respectful manner, doing your part. How she reacts is her part.
My "ex", that is someone I told from the start I'm not sure about this, which she said she was okay with, but then started calling it a relationship, also used self-harm and a bunch of manipulative stuff. She also had heavy BPD, which helped me understand some of her actions better. I don't blame her for the manipulation and everything, but I simply have my boundaries too. So when I broke things off as respectfully and considerately as possible, she went on a self-destructive binge for a couple of weeks. We became friends for a while afterwards. And she told me how much the "break-up" had hurt her, and asked me if I'd feel guilty had she killed herself. I would feel absolutely terrible. But I'd know it wouldn't have been my fault. Which she agreed with. I mean, for me at least, what's the alternative? Both of us living a vapid relationship that has no roots, out of fear?
LOL pretty much went the same path as you. Tried some other search engines (don't have a searxng one though). And it's only that IRC log. So, personally couldn't find any evidence. But also doesn't seem that important, since the concept appears to be the most important part.