It was to avoid mispronunciations and potential bullying in school.
I mean... yes, that does alienate you a bit with the rest of the population. But still, you can give children a name that isn't used for official legal documents. Or like put it as the "Middle Name".
Like, it can be very sentimental when... you know... the parent dies...
I know, I might sound a bit silly. "It's just a name", yes, but its one that echos in your ancestors, it goes up the bloodline, across time. Its an artifact, an heirloom. A unique bond between parent and child.
To 2nd generations... it might seem less impactful, so I don't know if y'all might understand from my PoV. But, even though I emigrated when I was very young, when I was 8, that name is still a core part of my identity.
I think having such a name, even if not part of your legal name, kinda helps with like... you know... just feeling less self-shame about your heritage... helps with self-esteem a bit.
Now that we’re talking about this, I wonder what my Asian name would be if I had one xD
Are you parents still... around?
If you have a half-decent relationship with them... you can... ask them to give you a name (maybe they already thought of one but never used it). If they are still here, it's never too late.
You can write a sort of mini-biography journal entry about it. Like: My name is [X] but the name my parents gave me is [Y]. And make the entry look cool. Add some flowery proses to it. xD It can make you feel better.
I'm curious how many kids just don't care. Like... with all the emotional damage these parents do... does anyone actually care about their parents? Like... really? Spirits? Lol.
I was taught about some reincarnation stuff, yet, simultaneously they say ancestors are in heaven? So... the abusive parents go to heaven? Or I thought they were supposed to be reincarnated? So confusing.
Like jeez, imagine being "in heaven" with your abusive ancestors spirits.
Sorry for ranting, had a recent argument with parents.