You're a funny lil' person regardless of how you write and I like seeing your posts. And with that I return to my lurking.
If you're looking for a rational argument for the big party or the religious ceremony or anything like that -- You won't find it. These things are meant to play to the emotional, and this isn't a flaw, it's the whole point. People really need to embrace that we are, in fact, very emotional creatures, and that this is not a bad thing, and that yes, a lot of the things we do are done just for the emotional satisfaction of it. Because it's fun, because it will make you or someone you care about happy.
If neither you nor your partner give two shits about big parties or ceremonies, then neither of you needs to bother. If said partner does want this and you don't, then y'know, maybe have a good chat about that and find a compromise. That's how partnerships work. (Me personally I'd love to organise my own wedding and go all quirky with it, but I can live without it)
Being legally married is a separate thing, and is inexpensive in most countries (just a small fee so the bureaucrats can process the bureaucracy), and at least in my country is often done weeks if not months in advance of the big party and/or religious ceremony, with the couple already being legally married while they organise their wedding stuff. To be legally married is to have you and your partner recognised by The State (tm) as being a family unit. This has uses for a few situations in life.
And since I am a guy
Just using your post as a springboard to get all 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
but I wonder how much of the idea of "women's friendships decay, men's friendships can pick up exactly where they left off" is based on reality.... And how much of it is just a stereotype based on social norms that are no longer true. Y'know, like the idea that "women have naturally better emotional intelligence" (the reality is that most young boys were and on some level still are discouraged from engaging with emotions in general, and it's hard to get good at something with no practice)
I can't even cite personal anecdotal experience as an argument for or against because my friendship group is mostly queer dudes with the occasional transgender chick or enby person.
The first step to lasting friendships is not being a lil' bitch.
Funny that
I wouldn't have made it to adulthood without my friend circle. I'd have ragequit life long ago.
The little groupchat of funny internet nerds I built up over these past 15 years is my entire backbone.
Given that the photo first surfaced in 2014ish, at least 11 years. No idea how old that is in Owl years.
But yes, I'm also glad.
If it's anything to ya, Gaius Julius Caesar saw a statue of Alexander the Great and had an emotional breakdown -- Alexander the Great had conquered "the entire world" (or, well, the world as ancient greeks understood it) in his 20s and Caesar was 30 going on 40, and he was "just" a Roman General. -- He eventually did scorch his name into the annals of history, but he was over 45 when he did.
And like. We don't need to be Julius Caesar or JRR Tolkienn. It is more than enough if by the age they became legends you have figured yourself out just enough to be living instead of surviving, especially if, unlike them, you didn't get a head start by having rich parents. :P
World War 1 was a pretty shit time to be alive. Sure, his family had dosh, which probably protected him a bit.
... But when the world is going to shit (and it HAS gone to shit, many times before), it goes to shit universally.
After WW1 there was the Great Depression and a lot of people (including plenty of old money folks) lost their everything. -- And right after that there were the Nazis. Y'know, the original Nazis, the ones that the current US government is trying to imitate. They seem to respawn whenever a capitalist nation is in crisis, I'm sure that's just a coincidence.
Do not fall into the trap of "the good old days" because that is, ironically, how fascists get you. The past was awful, in different ways but awful.
I was going to make a comment about how this post was "so old the Owl might even be dead"
Glad to see that's apparently not the case.
But by that time he was a university professor.... And had fought in the Great War.
Hey it's okay, some of us get our masochism kick from butt-stuff. Some of us get it from using tools from the 70s.
612 years in the past
In Brazil. So almost a century before the first europeans landed here. I'm assuming I just plop exactly in my relative earth-location, but in the distant past. (... It would be really funny if this was overly literal, because I'm currently in the 12th floor, so I'd thanos snap into the past and immediately fall to my death)
Well
As a person from modern times -- From AFTER the Americas came into contact with Europe, if I went near a person here in the Land of Palms (that's what the natives called Brazil!) from those times we'd both get horribly infected and die a lot due to how antibodies work. Viruses did a lot of the legwork in genociding the natives. Euros would deliberately do things to infect natives so they'd die of illness.
The place I currently live in is slowly turning into a desert, but was a deep jungle back then (... It was still a deep jungle in the 1910s tbqh).
.......... I think I'd just die? Become food for a jaguar or eat a poisonous fungus or sth.
Would love to indulge in the fantasy of giving the Guarani people guns and a warning to shoot white people on sight just to see how history would change, but that ain't happening.