In my experience you should consider yourself successful if there is no bleeding. It never ceases being painful.
Family home server gang represent
Definitely on that first one. Normies are all inside the GoogleMetaAmazonMicrosoft panopticon. If they are old they might still have a Yahoo Mail, but that's as spicy as it gets.
As for the second bit -- All evidence I have is purely anecdotal. My ProtonMail account works fine and no one ever complained about not getting mail from me, but I have heard stories of people who use mail accounts not from GMail/Outlook getting flagged as spammers and having trouble chatting with the normies (tm). Or having trouble creating accounts on sites because their e-mail is considered "not valid" by whatever system they put up on the shitty-ass site.
I will concede on the "we are all weirdos" bit. Fair point.
because Fediverse users are so paranoid of even vaguely coexisting in an interconnected vicinity
(this is a good thing, megacorps corrupt all that they touch, actually by your own metric, if fear of Meta is what keeps the fediverse safe, than I say the best defence is for us to never stfu about it)
They don't need to kill "every" lemmy/masto instance to kill the ecosystem. You just need to absorb enough of it that the only people left outside of your perversion of the ecosystem are certified weirdos.
E-Mail was (and still is) an open standard anyone could use. But after decades of getting EEE'd, you'd be hard-pressed to find someone using an E-Mail Not provided by the corporate giants, even like, other enterprises have rolled their e-mails into the Google/Microsoft ecosystems, and ALSO if you have an e-mail address that is outside those domains, normies who are inside the corporate ecosystem will have trouble communicating with you as your address will get autoflagged as spam more often than not.
Embrace, Extend, Extinguish.
Hot damn your artstyle made Xenia look creepy. I guess that's the point tho?
~~The penguins also look stoned but that part I fully approve of.~~
"No! I refuse to open more than one site! If it's not on this one site that I have decided amounts to the entire threadiverse then it doesn't exist, how dare people make me think? The absurdity of it all!"
The problem with this is that it isn’t really decentralized equally. Lemmy.world has most of the users and getting defederated from them is essentially a death sentence in terms of content and engagement.
Self-resolving issue here. If people hop away from LW due to LW making decisions they don't like, LW will cease being the one-go-to-place for stuff. Which is good, it shouldn't be. No one instance should be "the main instance". The right way to use federation is each person & community should make their home at a place where they vibe just right with the fed admins. It's even good for LW itself as it reduces the burden on its server and the workload for its admins.
Also also -- Defederation is a far more nuanced thing than just "is block". There is more than one tool that can be used by an ActivityPub admin.
If LW defederates from your home instance -- You can still manually follow communities that are in LW AND interact with them (unless the admins go out of their way to ALSO block USERS from your home instance), as "defederated from the instance" just removes it from the global timeline/global community search.
What happened here, though, wasn't defederation, it was a block, and a block on two specific communities, which outright prevents viewing & interacting with content from those communities from within LW. Which brings me to: LW's block on the piracy communities from dbzer0 doesn't stop LW users from interacting with dbzer0 as a whole. Or vice-versa. Only with stuff from the piracy coms.
Yeah like.
This isn't reddit dot com opaquely purging your favourite subreddit for some unspecific corporate reason.
The admins stated quite clearly why they are blocking it ("we don't want trouble, and our TOS lay out that we'll defed from illegal shit for our own safety"), and it is their instance. And unlike Reddit -- The community is still THERE in its home server. It has not been burninated. -- You can just. Make an account elsewhere. It's free. It takes less than 5 minutes. You can even KEEP your LW account for other communities.
The microinstant she came out as a teef she became their beloved. They'll love bomb anyone who helps their backwards ass beliefs.
Edit: autocorrect turned terf into teef. I am NOT fixing that.