VerilyFemme

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[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Understood, thanks for laying it out so clearly!

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

Ooh, I appreciate any advice from a veteran best man speech listener.

If I could ask, have you ever seen anything similar to the scenario I presented? I suppose I'm mainly just feeling awkward in my role and wanting to tap into some experience that closer fits my situation.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 12 hours ago

Genuine sincerity is the large majority of what I have planned for the speech. However, he and the bride are already a little bit in defense mode, as their families include some transphobes.

It may not end up being the right call once I draft and edit the speech, but I'd like to try to do something to lighten the mood.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (1 children)

This is excellent advice, because I definitely don't want to make it about me. I realize how the wording of my post kinda implies that I do.

I suppose that I feel, given the circumstance, that I have to acknowledge it in some way. I think I'm just nervous about showing up in a traditionally male role, as a trans woman, in front of a bunch of rednecks, frankly.

Thank you for the words of wisdom!

 

So, I'm going to be the best man in my friend's wedding. I'm very flattered to have the honor. He's one of my closest friends, and I have no problem supporting him as his best man/best trans.

Furthermore, I'm out to him, and he has made it clear that he wants me to show up in whatever way makes me the most comfortable. I've picked out a dress, started taking voice lessons, and plan on getting my hair and makeup done professionally.

I don't feel dysphoric at all about filling a traditionally male role, but...

How the fuck do I write a speech? A lot of best men seem to give speeches that joke about their 'bromance' with the groom and all that, which I find to be wholly inappropriate in my scenario.

My first thought was poking fun at picking a woman for best man, but some of his family are transphobic and I don't want to rely on gender humor out of fear that they stew in their transphobia and say something to ruin his wedding. Then I thought maybe I could crack a joke or two about being trans - but I also don't want to lean into the self-deprecation so much that I validate anyone's transphobia.

So, how do I even approach this?

I was thinking I could open with, "When the groom asked me to be his best man, I said, 'sit down, there's something you should know.'"

Maybe I'm overthinking it, but this is a friend who has been there for me in the past. I want to fill my role in his wedding perfectly. Any advice is welcome and appreciated.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 19 hours ago

Whole soundtrack is a banger. City Escape may be the best opening level ever. At the very least in terms of establishing tone.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"Fuck up the shape? Sure thing boss!"

Good point, I actually had a similar issue when opening a LibreOffice file in Word. I think that's more just the problem with having one standard for everything. That said, FOSS projects do need to work toward total compatibility with closed-source projects if they want to have a fighting chance of dominating the market. If LibreOffice really could just be a drag and drop replacement for MS Office, I don't think anyone would choose to use MSO.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Well that's just.... that's just plain nice. 🥲 Thank you, hope your day brings you much joy.

[–] VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Short term: Dishonored and Far Cry 3. I beat Dishonored in a day and then turned around and beat it again. I played Far Cry 3 for like 22 hours straight, took a nap, and then beat it.

Long term: New Vegas. The same problem with Dishonored, where it was so good I had to turn around and beat it again as soon as I got done. The problem being, there's hundreds of ways to play through New Vegas. So I put about 11 full playthroughs with all DLC in on the PS3 version. Essentially back to back to back.

Getting that mini turbo

 

Death Generator is an easy generator for changing the text displayed on old game screens.

You should know this because there aren't enough Death Generator memes on Lemmy ;)

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