yeah I hope so. But I dont think theres a diplomatic way to say "Hey I see you guys are struggling, I think maybe applying X Y and Z might help a bit" without being sucked in.
Possibly, or its part of his development issue. its hard to tell. They keep saying they are seeking help with them, but ever time I ask they seem to be waiting for something.
She sort of expects you to get involved with their shit like bitching about him to you or whatever as if she expects you to fix it? And at first you kind of understand, we all do it to a lesser degree. But after the 8th time of hearing how horrible a situation is that has a really obvious (if uncomfortable) solution it gets tedious as fuck! Yes, life is hard sometimes, but if you never make an effort to fix things it wont get better. A great example is the dog. She'll go "Oh the dog is so hard to manage" "have you taken him to training yet?" "No, not yet, I've just been sooo busy with X" Right.... its been 2 years bro. At at certain point this is YOUR fault.
Agreed they need a support network, just dont think we can be it for them.
from what I understand getting her out of the house would be an achievement. But man I'd happily take the kids if it meant they could clean the house or something! I'm not one for judging, i've got a toddler I know its hard and our place is frequently a mess too. But theirs looks like the start of a hoarders episode. Trouble is their kid doesnt listen to them, so theres no chance I'm looking after a kid that cant/wont listen to me.
This is an old throwback now: Does anyone remember me complaining about some "Mates" Who had kids and made some really distasteful "Jokes" back when we were still struggling ourselves? Something about throwing their baby in the bin or something cause he was frustrating them? Well, got a bit of an update on them.
Drama
They are struggling. Hard. Her mental health is in the bin, and he is pushed for time having taken a job that seems him out of the house from 5am till 6 or 7 pm. Add another kid to the mix and its not going well. he made a joke about "Needing more support". I laughed cause we also don't have family around us. But I think it was kind of a hint and I just.... fucking no chance. I didn't say anything, but there is NO way we're stepping into that mess.
Almost everything that's going wrong was visible from a mile away before they made the decision. Her mental health is crap cause her family fucking suck, but she does running back to them every time. They threw a dog and another baby on top of the first one who I think has some development issues. The whole thing is a mess and i know it sounds cruel, but there's no way to help them without them trying to suck you into the vortex of their drama. I've made that mistake 2 or 3 times before, I'm not making it a 4th time. If you could just drop off a meal or babysit for a bit to help without hearing how horrible everything is and leaving feeling worse for having done a nice thing.. I feel sorry for them, but at what point do you go "You've kind of shot yourself in the foot there, can you please not bleed on my kitchen floor?"
reminder to switch your NBN every 6 months. NBN actively incentivize retailers to give new customers good deals for the first 6 months, so you're almost always better off moving around. https://www.ozbargain.com.au/node/785724 was a pretty good deal and they're a decent provider. Porting is largely painless.
Itβll be a cold day in hell for I acknowledge that name.
Aldi was totally out, Coles was low. Also not seeing any lactose free milk or cream for some reason.
BOM says 4 Apple says 7. I reckon bom is right (for once). Shit is COLD! And god I miss my slippers!!! They are still drying after the pasta sauce catastrophe of yesterday.
discovered I can easily pull my stupid sliding windows out, meaning cleaning them just went from "Damn near impossible" to "a decent project, but perfectly doable". Hopefully the rain holds out a bit on the weekend cause I'd love to tackle a few more. theyve got 15 years of moss and dirt built up.
gotten a bit more on top of mine too. staggered the progress I can make if I'm both organized AND realistic.
Youβre doing the right thing by staying out of it, as hard as it may be.
Cheers, I think I was looking for that even if I didnt know it.