Just curious, but doesn't this mean that this system is easy to bypass? Just because you don't ask about their family doesn't mean they are not going to share it. Just saying something like "enjoying the summer so far?" As a conversation starter could trigger a "oh yeah, spending it with my 5 kids" response.
And someone who already knows that a discrimination case could be made can just easily put his religion or family or whatever into whatever response they feel like even if it doesn't make sense for the question.
It just seems easy too easy for someone to be able to do this just because they said something. Or does it only apply if you ask?
So "eat my entire ass" is not inflammatory now? Good to know.
Even of he did not say that, if he really wanted to give positive criticism he wouldn't advocate against it entirely. Your happy medium is correct, he was 100% against it from the beginning.
Not coming from anger or anything like that, just pointing out that you implied he was in the happy medium when he isn't.