call the API!
What level did you reach? I feel like a lot of these problems are solved by better experience and understanding.
Not all of your criticisms of course unfortunately, but they're not relatable to me at least. I've really enjoyed the experience.
Genshin and honkai star rail, send help
It seems like D4 has both, there are many cosmetic items and flairs that are only achievable through somewhat impressive gameplay feats like cosmetic pvp rewards and item drops (like a cool horse variant I got as a loot drop, unable to be purchased)
I'm not knowledgeable about this but I've heard people mention that there are indeed more rare/difficult items to achieve through gameplay that I'd rather not spoil myself on and enjoy learning about more organically so It's difficult to cite but it does exist.
To give you another opinion to consider, I've really enjoyed the game so far and so have all my friends. One of which is a dedicated PoE gamer with thousands of hours if that helps lend credibility to his opinion, I'm a less dedicated ARPG gamer and it's my favourite ARPG that I've tried (from a less dedicated more casual perspective)
My reaction upon reading this is that I think you're expecting too much, I think reddit will be fine without me, you or everyone else leaving.
That's okay though, the platform doesn't need to fail for you to be happy moving on from it.