Teknevra

As a 30 year old myself you're not old, you're not even middle aged. I've been in the fandom for over a decade and while I understand most people view 30 as "furry death" you're definitely not old enough to be presenting yourself as a "Grey Muzzle".

Most Grey Muzzle groups won't even let you join until you're over 50. Do people just do it because they don't feel like they fit in with younger furrys so go to the other extreme or they just want to appear like they're more "sage like" in the fandom than they actually are?

Idk I just think it's really weird how a lot of furrys act like once you pass 20 you're essentially just sentient mold and can only hangout with guys whos weekends plans are getting a urinary tract infection and bed sores.

I’ve been a furry for 11 years and I feel that theres not a lot of people who do anything different or new. I mean no offense to artists and fursuit makers, the style of furry art feels very similar and follows the same tropes.

It just doesn’t feel very creative and fresh.

There’s definitely artists that break the mold on artwork, but it’s not very often and so many artists feel extremely similar to the point that AI can create a generalized “ Furry artstyle”.

For fursuits, the Disney/ Anime styled eyes that a lot of makers use look pretty close to one another, again there’s always people who go against the grain, but it’s hard to find makers who can do different eye styles.

I don’t even have to start on the one joke furries have, it’s just really old and not funny imo.

The monoculture imo is especially prevalent in the furry music scene, as most of the music is Electronic, or some kind of Dubstep style from the Early 2010’s.

There’s maybe a few furry artists I like, but I just wish the fandom was more diverse in its craft and really lived up to the creative label the fandom has.

This is really one of my first public discussions about a few of my pet peeves with the fandom, so please excuse my rather jumbled post.

What's most popular nowadays?

Are sites like:

Weasyl,

SoFurry,

or

Furry Network,

still a thing?

Or is it mostly Bluesky, Discord Lemmy?

I wanted to join a couple more sites, but I'm unsure if I wanna make an account if the site is gonna be mostly dead.

I want to find some active communities and I'm curious where it's at currently.

How old is too old to become a furry?

Gosh i don't know what to do other than pretending this didn't happen at all?

It feels like he's judging me for the past few days (i've told him last week).

We've been together for a year and a half now, I never let him get my phone in fear that he would see the furry stuff in there, and in a jealosy fit of his I decided to trust him and told him I was a furry.

He didn't know anything about It, and trying to explain what furries were made him innitially think I was a zoophile for a split minute, gosh, the rage and disgust in his voice for those split seconds still breaks my heart when i look back at it.

I tried showing him furry art to try and make him see what furries were, bit all he said was, "these are Animals" in an accusatory tone...

But, at the end he seems to have accepted It, said he loves me, that we should not kink-shame each other, and then we kinda pretended that didn't happen for the rest of the date cause It was very embarassing.

But now and then he keeps sending messages about It, and saying stuff like, "you like to fuck Monsters"

I think he is doing research, he asked me if i was into puppyplay.

The bad thing is that he says and asks these things in an accusatory tone, as If I should be embaressed.

For the First time in months in feeling very lost in my realationship, fearing that this could be a Rift between us that would only grow bigger with time.

How could i better explain what furries are to my boyfriend?

I fear he still thinks it's a zoophile thing, and as I Said, he is still researching, but, when he did that on the date before my explanation, Google only showed him the absolute worst the fandom has to offer.

I've been going to meets since last February, and while I've had some fun and made a couple of friends (mostly just online), I still feel so out of place at meets.

Nobody ever asks me for a hug or photo, and my suit looks shit.

I just wish that I was more confident and actually could try and make irl friends.

Doesn't help that I'm 17, which causes me a bit of anxiety because I feel like people won't want to talk to me because of it.

I decided that I wanted to participate in murrsuit Monday on bluesky yesterday, because I had just finished my Papa Titan cosplay, and wanted to take some nice shots, and it was surprisingly fun picking out which jockstrap best fit the character, and which poses to do.

I’m a furry and i am weirdly interested by the furry fandom from like a philosophical standpoint.

Fetishes in particular interest me a fair amount.

Some fetishes borderline on surrealist horror once you think about them too much.

I kind of wanted to write a story set in a furry world where common furry fetishes are like a phenomenon that are taken completely seriously.

I think a good example is the concept of inflation.

It’s quite horrific once you start thinking about it in a non-sexual context.

Someone expanding until they explode in a mass of bloated gore.

I feel like I only realized how weird furries really are once I started thinking from an outsider’s point of view.

All of this is strange, very strange, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I think furries have great potential for satire and surrealist horror/comedy that I don’t feel has been properly exploited.

The furry fandom feels “alienated” in my opinion. Anthropomorphic animals are a widespread concept yet the furry fandom feels like it is focused on specific attributes.

For example, femboys. Go on pretty much any furry group and you are likely to encounter a femboy character somewhere.

The fact that femboys are so common in the furry fandom intrigues me as at first glance effeminate men and anthropomorphic animals have absolutely no correlation whatsoever.

I badly want to write a story that is somewhat a satire of the furry fandom.

Not coming from a standpoint of hate but curiosity and just sort of poking a bit of fun at a lot of “tropes” within the fandom.

I imagine it would likely be intentionally chaotic and probably not very good story-wise, but I’d want to put it out there anyway even if it wasn’t so good. The furry fandom itself is just something im weirdly fixated on at the moment.

Hey everyone, I'm a little new to being involved in the community, so I don't really know if I should do anything about this.

A fursuit maker I follow just posted a wip of a premade they plan to sell at a con.

It looks great so far, but the thing is it looks almost identical to my sona: same colors, same patterns, potentially same species (they didn't mention the species).

The only difference is they might have added white eyebrows? But that could also be the base underneath.

I assume its a coincidence, as I'm a very small?

Essentially no-name artist, but it feels really weird.

Should I say anything?

Can I ask them to make a change to it?

I don't know what is allowed here.

I don't think they posted a ref for the suit idea so I don't know what their plan for the entire premade is.

They're also a big suit maker and I do NOT want to start drama, especially if its nothing.

If I'm being stupid please feel free to call me out I guess.

Been wanting to make a new sona lately, putting more thought on the design and colors because my current one was rushed and I didn't add literally anything, most design choices were made by the artist herself, and I didn't really question it.

But what would be a good way to design one if you lack skills to draw/model?

I thought maybe finding artists who are willing to help you with it but ig it'll be hard to find one since they have other clients.

I suppose my other option would be to just grab a pencil and learn to draw lmao.

Seriously.

Before really getting into the fandom ~5 years ago I could count on one hand the number of times I had been ghosted or otherwise actively ignored by a close friend, online or in real life.

With other furs, though, I constantly get ghosted, randomly blocked, or otherwise ignored.

I cannot for the life of me figure out why.

I try my best to be nice to everyone. I give people a safe space to vent when they need it and a friend to talk to and chill with when they don't.

Still, the majority of my furry best friends over the years have eventually just randomly fallen out with me and gone silent.

I have AuDHD and I really struggle with social skills and context clues, so when I get ghosted it creates a huge lack of closure and makes me dwell on things, wondering what I did wrong and why they won't tell me. I get that they're "not real friends" or "not worth my time" and that whole rhyme and dance. I don't really care. It still hurts like hell.