SubArcticTundra

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[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 53 points 9 months ago (4 children)

I'm a perfectionist and I realized I've been making life too hard for myself. Choosing a low bar for success but keeping the ceiling high has felt like a much healthier approach.

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 9 points 9 months ago

Definitely agree with this one

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 months ago
[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 30 points 9 months ago (4 children)

I think that something like the internet archive – where the body of data is too large and important to store in one place – is where using a federated framework similar to Lemmy might make a lot of sense. What’s more, there are many different organisations which have the incentive to archive their own little slice of the internet (but not those of others), and a federated model would help in linking these up into one easily navigable, and inherently crowd-funded, whole.

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 13 points 9 months ago

It's only a 'wrong answer' because people here downvote on an ideological basis. If it works for you, then it's okay 👍

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Very therapeutic, Gary

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 3 points 9 months ago

That's just South Park

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

people are not using it to do better. They are instead outsourcing their own thoughts and imagination

Exactly, technology is eating society instead of society being contientious about its use of tech. I believe that the pendulum will eventually swing back and people will start to ration their use of technology, but until that happens, opting out will remain really hard and I don't know how to work with that...

And yes, I agree that much of the 'progress' has been solutions to problems people didn't know they had. (But this is only tangentialy related to my problem.)

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 3 points 9 months ago

Exactly. It's not 'progress' and yet oftentimes you're forced to go along with it.

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I think that would count as smoking.

 

In a similar vein, sometimes my breath feels sort of 'milky', even though I haven't eaten any dairy products. What could that be?

Edit: Apparently this is not normal??
Try this experiment to see if you get the taste as well:
Next time it's freezing outside, sprint for a bit so that you're left taking deep breaths in the cold air by the end of it. That's when I get the taste. My saliva also feels a bit thicker, probably due to the cold air.

 
 

Whenever I see someone I'm interested in I always make sure I go and talk to them. That's as far as I've ever gotten.

The way I see this working is as follows:

  1. somebody catches my eye
  2. I go over and talk to them
  3. we get along well, stuff develops in pretty much the same way as if I had just met a new platonic friend
  4. ???
  5. We start holding hands. I've watched enough films to see that it pretty much escalates by itself from there.

The problem is that whenever I've done this, they were either cool but didn't show much of an interest in me, or their personality didn't resonate too deeply with mine which was a shame because I still thought they were gorgeous.

Now I'm not looking for somebody to spend the rest of my life with. Because that will take a lot of meeting people. But I am in the mood to experiment with intimate relationships, and now. Part of me wonders whether it's even worth it if they don't share my sense of humour. But another part of me thinks the steps above might be constraining me to only one type of relationship, those of the lifelong sort, which is why it's taking so long.

As you can see at step 4 there is clearly a gap between talking with them and holding hands that I don't know how to cross, which I'd currently do by explicitly asking can we hold hands. I wonder if the thing I'm missing is also the thing that would progress things to the physical without the person being your soulmate. When you go to parties you see drunk people breaking the touch barrier together without talking. What's the cue for that to happen? Should touch ever be the thing that advances a relationship with someone? How does that work? How do you make sure it's mutual? Or is the way to go really to wait until I meet someone I get along with so well that something clicks?

 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Would it have to be registered as an 'official 3rd party client' (like is currently the case with Spotify's API for example)?

 

I often code on the go, and I'm looking for a way to extend my screen space beyond that of my laptop when I'm in hotels etc.
I think what would suit me best would be a small projector that can project at a 90⁰ angle, ie. onto the surface that its underside is facing. This way, I could either place it on the table, and have it project onto the table in front of/behind itself, or place it on the floor under a wall and have it project onto the wall above itself.
Is anyone aware of something like this being produced?

 
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