Basically never had that. I’m nice because why wouldn’t I be? And I don’t overwork myself because on the occasions that I did it only ever hurt me while some manager who underpaid me already got all the benefits. I do put in a lot of effort when I helping a friend or something and they really needed it and that was its own reward(but still take care of yourself, you can’t help others if you’re broken).
I don’t think it’s a brag, I think it’s just the AuDHD making it so I spend more time than most asking questions that authorities don’t like and my parents, especially my mom, were pretty decent about not being dictators who might send me the other direction toward a trauma response(which is valid and I have great sympathy for those that got put on that path).
There are ways out of it, but we gotta keep pushing and people who are lucky to be like myself need to make sure we stick up for those who don’t have this automatic response. It’s a privilege and using it just for ourselves will not only not fix anything but it will also, if you need a selfish reason, continue the trend of abuse that bad, defensive managers and the like will dump on us for just asking questions at our jobs.
You can fit 7 people in an SUV if they’re all going to the same place. You could say “isn’t that what a bus is?” but a bus has way more space, is happy to frequently stop, is much more fuel efficient per pserson, and is part of a larger network.