SolarNialamide

joined 2 years ago
[–] SolarNialamide@lemm.ee 5 points 2 years ago

Huh? Your parents made fun of your boobs?

[–] SolarNialamide@lemm.ee 6 points 2 years ago

I've been making my own clothes for more than a decade now and I've dabbled in knitting and crocheting, but I'll admit it's a bit too much for me. I once made a dress where I didn't have quite enough fabric so the skirt ended up too short and thought, oh, I'll just a crotchet a nice 15 cm wide decorative border. Problem was it was a circle skirt so the hem was 4m long. Shit took me 15 damn hours lol. I respect people who have the patience for it or just find it fun but that's not me.

[–] SolarNialamide@lemm.ee 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I'm a teacher in training and in my internship this year I'm teaching first years (12 years old in my country). It's actually so funny and interesting to me that they often ask me questions from a perspective I would've never thought about, just because they're working with novel and limited information. I didn't experience that at all when teaching year 3 or year 5 because they're less of a 'clean slate'.

[–] SolarNialamide@lemm.ee 3 points 2 years ago

Yeah me neither. Where I live there really aren't many stray cats, and certainly not around where people live. It's a good thing though because I would definitely keep every cat if they would just walk into my house.

[–] SolarNialamide@lemm.ee 7 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Deep fried memes were also 5 years ago though

[–] SolarNialamide@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago

And dammit if it doesn't work every single time. She knows how weak I am

[–] SolarNialamide@lemm.ee 18 points 2 years ago

Where I live you do a big research project as one of the qualifications of getting your high school diploma. I had a hypothesis for mine that I could only answer with 'not true at all' at the end of it. My teacher actually loved it because it proved I had objectively looked at the literature and was willing to follow the facts wherever they led.

[–] SolarNialamide@lemm.ee 8 points 2 years ago

I'm sorry but you're being a child. 'Well, if everyone apparently hates hearing me talk so much, I'll just say nothing at all, just to please everyone even if it kills me inside!' My guy. If multiple people at different points in your life with different relationships all say the same thing to you, it's probably true. I know it's hard to accept but you're not accurately seeing what is happening in these social situations because you have a certain view of yourself and how you behave doesn't match with that so you ignore it.

I speak from experience. I'm autistic, it took a long time for me to learn to communicate properly. I had to be told by multiple people who were close to me at mutlple parts of my life that I was selfish in conversation and only talked about myself. At first I was very offended and indignant and denied it. Those people stopped being friends with me, but years later I realized they were right. Still, when I'm not trying I slip into just talking about myself. It took my brother and his wife saying it to me again 2 years ago. I apologized to them and have started paying attention more, and it makes a world of difference.

Let other people talk, ask them questions, no matter how brilliant or interesting you think you are. You, in your childish indignation, think that being more empathetic in conversation will have a negative impact on you, but the people around you will like you way more and be more willing to talk with you, which actually has a positive impact on you. You know, I have students who are also super offended every time you discipline them because it's sooo unfair and they didn't do anything wrong, but it happens with every single teacher. It's not them, it's you. Try to be open to the fact that sometimes, other people have a more accurate view of your behavior. If they all say the same thing, listen.

[–] SolarNialamide@lemm.ee 8 points 2 years ago

Infinity has been subscription only for a month now. Unless you take the code and put in your own api key if you can still get it, you're not using it for free

[–] SolarNialamide@lemm.ee 18 points 2 years ago

Lmao I've been an atheist all my life but I do always joke that God hates me in particular because there's no other explanation for my life

[–] SolarNialamide@lemm.ee 23 points 2 years ago (4 children)

That never happens to me because I'm too autistic to be aware of my own facial expressions. I didn't even realize until a friend I made at 20 or 21 told me I could go into theater because I was so expressive with my face. That gave me a bit of a mini existential crisis. My face has been loudly communicating things to everyone all this time without my knowledge or consent? Wtf

[–] SolarNialamide@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago

A ton of amphetamines and other stimulant research chemicals and a fuckton of alcohol. I think probably the latter is mostly to blame.

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