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Ah yeah I know they are different. What I meant was this guy has a clear defense under Warren v. DC (namely, that he had no specific duty to save lives) and he can simply argue that in his estimation he didn't have the ability to effectively engage, whereas the Uvalde commander is clear dereliction of duty.

I'm not sure this guy should be held guilty.

The one who SHOULD be charged is the commander who showed up on scene, left his radio in his car, failed to take command, and spent most of the next hour or two wandering around while innocent people were killed and nobody was giving any orders. And he says he 'didn't realize he was in command' fucking bullshit dude that is your job to know that you are a part of the chain of command. When you, a command officer, shows up on scene you should establish where you fit in that chain- if someone else is in command report to them, if nobody else is then take command. That's your DUTY. You personally don't have to rush the gunman, you just have to take command of your men.

In the absence of orders, 'do nothing' became the de facto order until a border patrol team (different chain of command) showed up and said fuck you all we're ending this.

Let's charge that commander with gross negligence.

I think this was probably the correct ruling.

If you are considering race as part of a college admissions, then you are NECESSARILY racist. You're not picking the best applicants, you're picking the best applications of a race mix you want.

Now, I'll be the first to say that certain minorities are under-represented in colleges. But that's not necessarily the fault of the admissions process. If the admissions process truly is race-blind, as it should be, then we should be asking why fewer people of whatever race are showing up as competitive candidates. And that brings us to the REAL problems- that a lot of minority applicants come from poor neighborhoods with bad primary education, crap high schools full of gangs and drugs, and few resources like books and computers and other opportunities to excel. And THAT is the problem we should be fixing.

Agree. But it's not kids, it's stupid people of all ages. Same thing happened with Reddit and with the Internet as a whole. Used to be you had to be a little smart to know you wanted to be on the Internet and figure out how to get it working. Then same was true of forums and IRC. Then same was true of Reddit. But then Reddit changed formats trying to be a TikTok style quick content scroll app, so idiots who just want to scroll started using the site and quality of discussions went down. I hope Lemmy grows but I hope the sign up process stays as it is, to weed out the extra stupid.

Fuck that. She made her bed, she can lie in it. If she is ashamed of what she did, then she should not have done it. There are two types of cheating. There's 'I got drunk in a bar and regretted it immediately and immediately told my partner', and there's an affair. An affair involves multiple points where you are consciously making a choice to start cheating on your partner, to continue to cheat on your partner, to lie to your partner. Any one of those decision points would have been a good time to think about how her kids would react and lose respect for her.

I say the kids had a right to know. Especially at that age, when they can understand what cheating means. Because she didn't just betray you, she betrayed them. The family, their family, is broken because of her. And as the person who's trust was betrayed, you have zero obligation to help her save face for her dishonorable actions.

Hard NTA

I'm not sure I understand this post. If chatty is actually an LLM, then chatty is a computer and thus is incapable of appreciating thanks. If you're asking if you're an asshole for using chatty to help with your job, I think most people are doing that these days, as long as you doubled and triple check the output to make sure that it is correct.

NTA.

I say she's in the wrong because if you and her are together, and she decides she doesn't want to be together anymore, she owes you a clear message explaining that.

She said she never brought that up because she knew it would hurt me, so apparently I was thinking she's in a relationship with me for all that while.

Okay, she wanted to avoid a difficult conversation, but you were owed that. Without that, she just kept leading you on, giving you the impression that you were together when you were not. That is wasting your time and emotion and I do qualify that as cheating- she was still keeping you under the impression that you and her were together, therefore the fact that she checked out is irrelevant. She owed you a breakup.

You sound like a very kind person who is extremely accommodating, and she sounds like she has a lot of issues but still cares about you a lot and is pretty confused.

If you want to continue a friendship/relationship with her, I suggest making joker a promise that you will always be honest with each other.

I would also be asking how much the other guy knows about you. If she has gone from avoiding difficult conversations with you, to avoiding difficult conversations with him, that's not cool.

Leaks contact information to the other users? Can you elaborate on that? I haven't heard anything like that

I agree with this 100%. That affects both the types of interactions, and the types of users.

When Reddit really took off 12 or so years ago, it was primarily a forum for discussion. I loved it because there would be in-depth, respectful, quality discussions on almost every page. I spent hours debating science and politics and technology and relationships and other things of substance with other intelligent respectful open-minded people.

For a few years now, Reddit has been trying to become a quick content scroll app- bombarding the user with page after page of memes and videos and low effort crap that only holds attention for 12 seconds but results in another page load and thus another ad impression. In 'new reddit' and the apps, there's very little focus on discussion or comments. Just quick content to flip through.

And that affects the discussions on Reddit (quality discussions are now the exception rather than the norm) and also the people who join and stay at the site. There's a lot more animosity, assumption of bad faith, etc.

But I also think that because Lemmy's design DOESN'T push people into quick content, but IS focused on discussions, that trend can reverse. People who want quick content will quickly grow bored here and leave. And we can keep the discussions respectful and open-minded.

I also think that the 'welcome to lemmy' posts should talk more about community and culture; what sort of interactions users should and shouldn't expect here. That should include an explicit warning that if you're going to start arguments and assume everyone else is an idiot, this probably isn't for you, but if you want to have good respectful discussions this is your new home.

Interesting. is that Unifying? I didn't know Unifying was a two way tech...

Yes exactly! I've always be in Reddit for the comments sections. 12-13 years ago, back when forums and IRC were what there was (aka, DISCUSSION based communities where low effort posts didn't blow up, and platforms were run by hobbyists and webmasters catering to communities rather than social media corps desperate for clicks). It was a better time to be online IMHO. I think part of it was that joining web communities was slightly unapproachable, which meant you had to be at least a little smart to realize that you wanted to join that community and figure out how to join it. But I think the format of the sites had a bigger effect in selecting the quality of content that got popular.
As you say, nonstop torrent of visual candy you can scroll through and click click click getting another ad impression or 12 each time.

Whole thing seems pretty short sighted.

At least the dude is honest though- 'we used to consider CentOS valuable, we no longer see value in that'.

What this all is really doing though is introducing a lot of uncertainty into the RH ecosystem, and pushing people toward other distros. And that will make RH the only fish in the small and shrinking pond. Because let's be honest- 99.9% of the people running CentOS and the like were never gonna buy RHEL to begin with.