SharkEatingBreakfast

Wait..... is this not a trans community?? 🙃❓️

I'm in a niche buy-trade-sell group.

There are many many regulars that all very close now after 3 years, and we know each other's info.

I trust those folks more than anybody irl.

Hell, my sister asked my address and I gave it to her. A few weeks later, she proceeded to let me know that she gave it to someone who had called her on the phone. She didn't know who it was. It was debt-collection company who had been harassing me for my ex-spouse's debts and legal dealings.

My info is safer with internet strangers than folks I've known for my whole life. Lol

I've never come across an angry Stardew Valley player, tbh.

Everyone fan I've seen are all "Sounds good Eric! Take your time! Don't work too hard! Take care! (: " The author of the article sounds rude about it, though.

R×ddit has been astroturfed to hell and back for quite a while now. I definitely believe it.

They have to lie to get them to look like idiots.

All the left has to do to make the right look like idiots is tell the truth.

That's what I mean.

And it should not be this way.

The fediverse vehemently defends & will happily accommodate trans folk. That's fantastic! But they'll be openly hostile to cis women?

It's baffling.

Makes me think that Lemmy is not actually as progressive as they are always claiming to be.

It used to be slapped/pinched butts and generally forced servitude.

I get what you're saying here, but these statements really minimize the issue.

If a non-white person came here with a concern about hostility in spaces on Lemmy, I sincerely hope the response would not be as dismissive as "yeah, it's always been a problem. That's just how it is. Used to be slavery and slurs. You have it so easy on the internet compared to those days!" Not saying it's a one-to-one comparison to your statement, but it's an issue that someone doesn't feel safe talking about their unique experiences in a space that touts itself as progressive.

I see trans folks come here and have been accommodated fantasticly in nearly all communities! It's so wonderful to see! And I love seeing them talk about issues that often stem from cis folk who simply don't understand their struggles. Hell, I do not weigh-in opinions in trans communities (other than to give support) because I am not trans, and I do not feel I have the right to insert myself into those discussions.

As far as "be the change you want to see", I absolutely understand that many folks have the view of "if you don't have the intention to change things, then stop complaining", and I get it. I do. But I want to complain in order, at the very least, get this issue noticed.

I understand that I cannot expect others to facilitate change for me, but, as stated before, I am not a person who is mentally strong enough to do so. My wish is for someone with stronger mental fortitude to take the issue seriously and help where I am unable to do so. That's my wish.

That's a very dismissive statement, and I'm sure that Lemmy isn't exclusively 14-year olds. Demographicly, it's populated with grown men who should know better.

Yes. Always.

The easiest way is to shut down blatent sexism you see around in posts and comments. I wouldn't even be aggressive about it. Just a "hey, that's not cool" and downvote.

Problem is, a lot of folks are "jokingly" sexist, while also only kinda joking? Either way, I think there's a line, but it's going to be different for everyone, and I'm definitely not sure that I'm the one who gets to draw it. But when women are seeing openly gross posts about women, it is very off-putting and will cause them to shun a community.

The issue is that women should be free to discuss women's issues without being harassed. And sometimes those issues include men. That's when the harassment starts.

Hell, there was an article posted when I first joined about women-only taxi services and I went in to comment my excitement and support! Only to be greeted with some of the most vile comments and insincere, shitty discussion I'd seen in a loooong time.

I'm not ""tough"" enough to moderate my own community that would inevitably put both it & myself as a target of harassment. Not going to risk putting myself through that. I'm stressed enough as it is.

God, same.. it's like all that TV static in my brain was finally gone. Ten years later and I'm still so damn grateful for it.

Yeah.. it really is.

That, unfortunately, is why I will never suggest Lemmy to people and why it will never be a viable option for most. Maybe that will change when the absolute batshit hostility stops, but considering all the communities lost.. nah.