And has been more and more right for decades, now.
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joined 2 years ago
You don't need to have fun. I do things I like that aren't destructive to me. I don't binge eat, I don't stay up super late. Responsibility to yourself and your health should come first. Drink water, get that skin healthier. Brush your teeth, exercise, eat right, get better sleep. That's the real good shit. If you can get THAT down, you'll be doing pretty good. Then start really working on your nutrition, finding sustainable, tolerable, healthy food that you like eating. Find pleasure in overcoming these challenges.
Once you do that, start going places during the day. See the amazing sights, get a tan. Be fully present in the weirdness that is life. It's uncomfortable, bizarre, fascinating, and fun.
But like somebody else said, if all fails, gay sex is pretty great. Or if it goes right, the perspective is really up to you.
If you do one thing though, it's to try to drink more water. That shit's good for everything.
Find the popular queer app for your flavor of queers in your area. There is one, I promise. You just have to find it.
This.
Take chances, find compatibility, be abnormal, life is for having fun.
Only chat with people you find attractive. Flirt like hell. Be charming. Chat until you're interested in them but don't ever lead them on. If you ever lose interest, try to let them down nicely unless they're annoying or it's obvious it's a numbers game to them.
Then just keep chatting until I want to meet them. Be sure to talk about real world stuff, interests, fears, hobbies, etc. If they're pushy, red flag. If they're not interested or not active, move on quickly. Don't block genuine people, that's shitty and rude.
Remember the goal is to find somebody you're actually compatible with. This means you need to know a lot about yourself and your likes and needs and dislikes. You also need to know your compatible audience - like, I'm not gonna pull 10s, but I'm not interested in sub-6s. I also know that I'm fucking weird and talk a lot, so I need someone who can financially pull their own, has some ambition, and can handle me and stimulate me. I have some high standards when it comes to certain things.
Figure out where your people are. Go there. Socialize. Just be you. Never don't be you, because that's a waste of time.
For example: I'm bisexual, and want all the things. But I know that there are certain demographics that are more interested in me than others. I'll figure out the overlap and decide if that's what I want or feel like. Often, it's really smart, thoughtful, emotionally mature men with deeper pockets and compatible kinks and lifestyle and interests.
So, if we can stand each other in chat (do not mistake this for having a low bar, this is actually the opposite), and find each other visually attractive, that's 80% of it.
For me, that's ended up being a few online places.
But take this all with a grain of salt, I'm currently looking for a long term partner, but have extremely specific needs that I'm not sure how to ethically communicate.
Then, when meeting, go for food. For me, I keep running into people with bizarrely bad personal hygiene and annoying eating habits like being vegan or they're autistic with extremely specific diets. Don't get me wrong, I don't actually care, I just DO like food, talking about it, experiencing new things, and if somebody can't eat like pizza or a burger or sushi, it's not gonna work unless you have something exceptional about you. Last guy I dated didn't use soap and we searched all around our city for the best pizza and I absolutely fell for him. Ugh. We had a good rating system.
Look for what you want. If you don't want large groups, why would you search there? Dating is social though, so figure out how you want to socialize with another person(s). For me, it's orgies and videogames and naps and philosophy and exploring irl.
Tldr: find your people.
What if you voted but then un-voted? Is that visible?
Woah. That was a wild title misread...
Damn. I saw him live once at Ozzfest 2007 with a now estranged very-close childhood-friend. I wonder if he heard the news and just thought about me, too...
Do you have a more detailed and accurate infographic? I'd love to have one.
Edit: I've seen the unicorn one here and searched around and found a few others on https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Identity_diagrams
Though, I feel like years ago I saw one that had more dimensions and possibly had accounted for genderfluid people. Also, I don't like that these all include sex assigned at birth, that seems shitty.
They're SO DAMN CLOSE TO ACTUALLY BEING SELF AWARE