Reyali

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[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 11 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Frozen veggies so I feel like it’s a real meal.

Fire-roasted corn is a fave, then usually peas and carrots, and the weird one I found: frozen okra. It seemed wrong but I had some on hand and figured why not? Turns out I like it a lot! It also thickens the broth just a bit in a good way.

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 41 points 3 months ago (7 children)

I mean, the dead can’t consent.

Also the article says “unresponsive passenger.” We know now the person was dead, but that doesn’t mean the rapist was clear on that fact at the time.

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago

I was so lucky to share a life with her! I also went on autopilot with her demands and would be asleep within seconds of my adjustments so I barely noticed them.

Don’t be surprised if your little man picks up new needs! I think that’s common as they age, and it sounds like you and I agree that it’s worth giving them everything they demand. I hope you have many more good years being his arm pillow!

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 5 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Similarly, in the last few of her 20 years of life, my kitty picked up a new ”requirements” on how we slept. It started with her wanting to be in my arms, and she’d paw at me during the night until I woke up and wrapped my arms around her. Given her inability to communicate her desires, it took a couple weeks of significantly disrupted sleep to learn that’s what she wanted!

That continued but she also began pawing for things such as: 1) lifting the blanket so she could go under it, 2) laying on my back so she could rest her head on my hip, and 3) rolling to face her. The last was the funniest as she developed it only in her final two years. She just couldn’t bear me facing away from her even while I slept!

I lost so much sleep meeting that cat’s needs, lol. And it was worth every second of it.

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 24 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Personally, I didn’t find this to be true. But I think the lifetime spent before the goodbye was worth all of the pain, as awful as it is. The hello to a new kitten was sweet and helped me think less frequently about the pain, but it wasn’t nearly equal to the pain of losing the old one.

That said, the girl I lost was without a doubt my soul pet. We spent 20 years together and losing her tore a hole in both my heart and soul. And yet I wouldn’t give up a single day I had with her if it would lessen the pain I have felt over the last 7 months since losing her.

I adopted a sweet new kitten about 3 months in and I am so glad I did. She’s wonderful and I think there’s a chance I got lucky and will have two soul pets in my life. But the joy of meeting her and getting to build a new relationship only makes me think less frequently of the pain of my loss, not feel it any less.

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 8 points 3 months ago (2 children)
  • Fear of not having enough money to make it.
  • Discomfort in seeing balances drop after years of saving; a lot of FIRE (Financial Independence/Retiring Early) folks get so into accumulating wealth that the transition into actually depleting that money can be terrifying.
  • Identity tied up in work (as another commenter said). Not knowing what to do with your time once you retire. Not having hobbies or a social life outside of work.
  • Having high ongoing expenses, like children in college.
  • Inability to retire; not having enough. This is obviously the most common scenario. Most people (at least speaking from a US-centric view) are in this boat. Depending on source, I’m seeing median bank account balances of $5-20k for people in the 50–65 range, and median retirement balances around $100k in the 50–59 age range. That’s not enough for anyone to comfortably retire, and pensions or other sources of income are becoming exceedingly rare.
[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 29 points 3 months ago

In your heart I think you know the answer or you wouldn’t be posting here like this. No, it’s not normal or healthy. That person is not a friend, and he seems dangerous to be around (maybe not for physical reasons but definitely for mental reasons).

Continue to be secretive and distance yourself from him; that’s not asshole behavior, that’s self-preservation. I hope you are able to separate yourself and get free from this person and in time find actual friends who care and support you for who you are.

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Happy birthday!

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago

Can you explain what you mean? Because I think we’re reading a very different meaning into it.

I read it as clever wordplay to acknowledge that one’s anecdote is not the same as data (by putting “data” in place of “dote” in ‘anecdote’ due to the similar sound). Considering that “argument from anecdote” is literally considered a type of fallacy, highlighting that one’s own experience is not scientifically rigorous enough to be considered data seems to be in alignment with general thinking on the matter.

Then again I’ve just learned that in 2020 the OED actually published “anecdata” literally as a facetious/disparaging plural of “anecdote,” so perhaps that’s why you take issue with the quote?

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 9 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Plural of anecdote isn’t anecdata

I love this. Thank you.

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 17 points 3 months ago

I agree with most of what you said, but you are severely overestimating the cost of t-shirts at Walmart. They start at $4 for plain or $7 for graphic tees from what I can tell. Even band tees and things like Mickey Mouse are in the $9–14 range based on a cursory glance on their site.

[–] Reyali@lemm.ee 3 points 3 months ago

Everyone who uses it will contribute to the dilution. It’s not like 1:1000 dilution from a single person’s shower becomes 1:100 if 10 people use it or 1:1 for a thousand. No, they each will use large amounts of water that dilute it down.

People don’t pour their soap down the sink (at least not for any normal uses); they use a small amount which gets washed away with a lot more water.

I’d suggest finding what concentration things are dangerous at and whether they break down organically or not. Then you can aim to keep your product below that concentration if you can so even if someone did pour it down the drain it wouldn’t be harmful. And if you confirm it will break down, you know you aren’t contributing to long-term build up either.

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