Rachelhazideas

Inb4 some people say 'women voted with their wallets', no we did not get to vote.

If you think we get to choose what size of pockets we get for pants that fit us without being uncomfortable, you have not shopped for women's clothing as a woman, ever.

When women buy pants, it's like bringing a random metric screw to an imperial hardware store hoping to buy a nut that fits and also all the labels are written in some alien language. The words 'size 8' never mean the same thing on any two pairs of pants.

Here are some common issues we encounter. It's not as simple as 'oh women are just vain and want pants that are a tight fit'. Women don't get the nice 33"x34" measurements that men get in spite of needing standardization more than ever, partly because it's nigh impossible to standardize the wide variety of hip and waist sizes women have and how it changes throughout the month. It's always 'these pants are perfect except':

• My hips are to big to pull these pants up
• My hips are too small and now I have to wear a belt with 2 inches of fabric uncomfortably bunching up in the back
• My legs are too long and my ankles are cold
• My legs are too short and the pants are touching the floor
• My waist is too big so the pants are choking me when I sit down
• My waist is too small and now the same belt problem happens
• There are no belt loops for jeans
• I have PCOS belly and belts hurt to wear
• I have sensory issues and I cannot stand belts of the feeling of bunched up fabric
• The cut is too low and my bum is showing
• The cut is too high and my abdomen is choking
• My thighs are too fat and so I can't sit down in these jeans without discomfort
• These jeans are too inflexible or small to accommodate days when I am bloating
• There are no pockets
• There are tiny pockets
• There are fake pockets

So please, I beg of you, don't commit bullshit about how 'women chose this'. We did not.

I think the misconception that you might be having is that the stress is even manageable at all. When people go through trauma at this age to this degree, there is little to no chance of managing it.

It's like watching someone get injured in an accident and saying that if they had the opportunity to manage themselves better they could recovery without any lasting effects. Some accidents, no matter how well it's managed by patients or doctors, will still render the patient paralyzed. Not to mention that a worse but more likely outcome is that they don't make it out alive at all.

There is a survivorship bias here that is not seen on the surface. The reason why I am chronically ill is because the alternative in my situation is that I would be dead. You don't see the people who had endured trauma and died, because they don't come on Lemmy and comment.

The best possible outcome from the accident I was in that is my childhood, is that I came out of it alive, albeit physically and emotionally damaged.

It's not clear what you're apologizing for. I do like how sexism has been reduced to 'a slight difference of opinion' now.

Funny how the discussion was considered productive when your response was 'Yes, you're very angry', and no longer productive when the misogyny was pointed out.

At no point did I call him a pedophile.

Feel free to make up other shit while you're at it.

I said the words 'I am not a pedophile.' because I was being accused of 'getting on' on with children.

You say, while graciously making sexist comments.

I'm not a pedophile.

Can you point to the part where I called him a pedophile?

All I said was that I don't date children.

Looks like he gets a free pass for sexism. Lemmy and it's 77% male userbase at its finest.

^Gaslight, control, dismiss, invalidate. Classic misogynist behavior.

Tone policing. It's not aggressive to make sexist claims. It's only aggressive to point them out.

Calm down buddy your misogyny is showing.

People like you forget that the vast majority of men have never participated in war. Most men, like women, subsisted on manual labor.

Your 'sexual dimorphism' claims are a tale as old as time made by prejudiced anthropologists with the same pompous attitudes about gender. See this NPR article to get your facts straight.

None of this changes the fact that we are taking about fantasy, where female representation is deemed more far fetched by misogynists than the existence of elves and magic. Something that has literally never existed before somehow has more credibility and reason to exist than female combatants who have actually existed.

This is the state of gatekeeping in the fantasy genre. If you think that there isn't a problem, you are part of the problem.

The idea that female medieval warriors only exist in fantasy is made up by misogynists to gate keep female representation.

Here is a list of named women that participated in battle. Keep in mind that this is just the tip of the iceberg given the erasure of women in history

Joan of Arc Eleanor of Aquitaine Æthelflæd Artemisia I of Caria Zenobia Matilda of Tuscany Margaret of Anjou Tomoe Gozen Grace O'Malley Isabella I of Castile Fu Hao Teuta Joanna of Flanders Lozen Jeanne Hachette Caterina Sforza Khawla bint al-Azwar Lagertha Sikelgaita Mavia Dihya Isabella of France

Whatever you think feminism is doesn't change what feminism actually is. I don't think you see the irony here of how you are explaining what feminism is to a feminist.

If you are not a feminist, you are anti-feminist. It's that simple. You think you are criticizing feminism, when in reality you are criticizing misandrists and TERFs who are not accepted by feminist (ask me, a feminist).

Can you just stop and think about the optics for a second? You are explaining to me, a feminist, what feminism is. You are explaining to me how i support misandrists and TERFs when everything I have written couldn't be further from that. You need to take a step back and start treating me, a woman, as a person with valid thoughts and opinions that exist independently of your narrow world view. And you need to stop putting down men who are feminists because doing so makes you just as much of a misandrist as the people you claim to hate. If you have any respect for yourself and other men's mental health issues, start accepting that feminism is the solution.