You know even though this is my home instance I fully support you defederating from it, I'd rather move to another instance than than have these assholes posting transphobic bullshit be allowed to come and harass the wonderful people here on lemmy.blahaj.zone as they please.
PowerfulTurtle
joined 2 years ago
further proof that I am totally cis and should stay away from all things feminine
Why would being cis imply that you should stay away from all things feminine? I mean if you enjoy feminine things then you should do what you like, don't avoid things that bring you joy in attempt to conform to some made up standard.
No you aren't weird, gender identity isn't defined by a person's gender conformity or lack there of. Wear whatever makes you feel comfortable, don't worry about it making you one thing or another.
If you have any doubts about your gender identity you should by all means question. I'm not saying you shouldn't. I'm saying the idea that you should wear what you want without worrying so much about what it makes you. You should identify in a way that feels right for you, that's what gender identity is based on, not whether some piece of cloth is semantically considered feminine or masculine.
It was very nice of your sister to give you her old clothes.
Have you ever tried sleeveless hoodies before, I know some people say they look trashy but maybe they might be for you.
I know they are definitely different and I'm definitely a boy, a femboy but a boy no less.
Reminds me of my friends a few years back, the difference is that I was having a conversation about having a boyfriend who's bi or pan since it might be a turn off that I look too much like a girl. Boy did I sure get grilled by them for that one.
I remember being told similar things by my "friends" in school due to me being a femboy who wears girl's clothes, and also for being gay, they used a similar argument with me when I would respond to their questions about why I don't want to be a girl because I didn't know then a better way to respond and I wasn't aware of what they were doing to me. They also teased me for being gay telling me "boys aren't attracted to other boys". I'm very glad I found better friends, those people weren't really my friends, they treated me like dirt.
It's a shame it had to come to this, I liked rammy.site very stable and almost never goes out, why do bigots have to ruin everything for us...