No, those are different things. Intrusive thoughts are your brain telling you terrible things like you suck at your work or your hobbies, you're worthless, your friends don't actually like you, and hey remember that time you did a cringey thing in front of people? They're not true, and you're not intentionally having these thoughts, but your brain can't easily rationalize them away. It's usually something that builds up over a lifetime so that you don't even realize it's happening. Thats how so many people get stuck believing the intrusive thoughts.
Pandemanium
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Yeah I saw a Bloomberg headline this week that said the price of eggs will probably never come back down. If they had published that three months ago, maybe people wouldn't have based their vote around that.
Men can get breast cancer. It's more rare for men than women, but not totally uncommon. If we called it chest cancer, that would be confusing since the heart and lungs also reside in the chest. I wonder what your therapist would think about that.
How can they argue that when we have clear precedent for other types of mandatory disclosures like TILA, the truth in lending act?
Apparently they've decided once every 5 years is enough for women. Now I wonder if that's because of the doctor shortage...
I keep getting told that no one will want to see my travel photos. Maybe it's because I'd rather show them in person instead of posting on social media?
Yeah, I participated in the one that was a few days before the inauguration. Heard about it from the front page of the New York Times. I'm pretty sure I heard about the other 700 marches planned for inauguration day here on Lemmy since this is the only social media site I use.
When you post that much on a small, not-very-popular-yet site, people are going to get tired of seeing you. I'm pretty sure I've blocked you at least once just because you were the ONLY content I was seeing on my front page. Why would I or anyone else come to a place like this and be ok with only seeing content from one user, or the same meme over and over with slightly varying formats?
One time it snowed a foot or two in Seattle. I had a set of studded tires on a little Toyota Tercel and I swear I was the only fucker driving around. Uphill, downhill, cruising down the lumpy hard-packed freeway, didn't have any problems. Besides, if you get stuck in a Tercel you can just lift the whole rear of the car out of the snow with a second person. I really miss that car.
That's odd. I read most of The Myth of Normal and did not get anything like what you're saying from it. In fact, Mate mostly blamed "the system" for keeping people traumatized. I would have stopped reading immediately if he'd said anything like "children are too sensitive." Are you sure this Barkley isn't mischaracterizing Mate? Did Mate later change his stance about everything? Based on his book, I can't imagine why he would ever say the things you describe.
Before you give up entirely, check out some of the areas surrounding Seattle. The capital is a bit more affordable and there are a lot of state jobs.
I understand where you're coming from, completely. It definitely feels like being silenced (again, because let's face it, this shit is mentally throwing us right back into childhood when our needs and feelings were ignored). I understand that desperate feeling of needing to be heard. But we're adults now, and the people at work aren't your parents. There's nothing obligating them to listen. Even my spouse needs time where I'm not ranting about politics. An hour a day is all he can do right now, and this is someone who cares about how I feel. But this isn't a rejection of my feelings.
One thing I've personally had to realize is that the stuff about politics isn't actually you. You have to find a way to have a degree of separation between the political and your actual core. I know it looks like they're the same thing right now. But think about what you really want to accomplish, think about what kind of culture you want to create at work. Do you want everyone to be as upset as you are? Would that make a good working environment? If you want others to be more compassionate, I think coming from a place of compassion yourself might work better. Right now it sounds like you're treating people in ways you probably wouldn't want others treating you. You can still be true to yourself, your ideals, and values without being quite so forceful. For some reason beyond my immediate comprehension, demonstrating the intensity of your feelings doesn't translate into people caring - it's rather the opposite.
This was a really hard lesson for me and took a few weeks to fully understand and think through. I hope you have someone likeminded in your life you can talk to outside of work. If you don't, please consider trying to find a new friend. You need someone who already understands, who you don't need to convince, to blow off steam with. Good luck.