Novamdomum

Wow :) you're the only one to engage with my post and not the throwaway bit at the end when I randomly thought about dentists.

So I can easily describe to you how my behaviour became less masked using the "golden retriever" analogy. My energy has often been described by close friends as being "golden retriever" like, a bit like Dug, the dog from UP. Kinda goofy and positive and bouncy. Before I knew about ADHD I used to keep that fairly hidden except to friends. Now that I know why I behave like that I can be a lot more me, a lot more of the time. I'm a much happier person for it too.

My leading theory at the moment is that now I feel the world understands and accepts ADHD a lot more, I'm not only dropping the masks I show the world but possibly also the unconscious masking of my behaviour from myself.

I'm still trying to understand the ins and outs of it though hence the question in here. I just wish I hadn't got distracted and added the random thought about dentists. It seems to have triggered a few people. Probably dentists 🤣

I feel exactly the same as you. I have ADHD so fluff is painful and pointless grind is just depressing. I thought the most obvious way to recommend my favourites would be to go by hours played, so here's my top four:

My Time At Portia - 594hrs Hardspace Shipbreaker - 498hrs Kingdom Come Deliverance - 370hrs Just Cause 3 - 255hrs

Special mention too for Assassin's Creed Odyssey (164hrs) because that is one well made game in almost every respect. Very little fluff, grind and you're always in control of how big a challenge you feel like facing. To my mind it makes all the other AC games look clunky and drab.

Also I hate difficulty spikes so much that whenever they happen and just seem to be there so the devs can grind a few more hours of playtime out of you for their analytics, I just reach for WeMod. Big shout out to WeMod in fact :) It's made so many games I'd abandoned fun again.

I've had this theory for a while that it's an Id/Ego thing. My very basic understanding of those two things is that Ego is what the world sees and Id is all your internal unfiltered behaviour. I reckon that when you get into a car, that car becomes what the world sees and you, as the consciousness safely inside it, instinctively revert to being more Id led. You feel safe and enclosed so you stop filtering your behaviour the way you would walking down the street.

As someone who has driven in different countries though, terrible behaviour is absolutely not limited to the UK. In France I experienced drivers who actually go out of their way to ruin your day. In the Middle East it was an almost complete lack of caring at all and a comically enthusiastic attitude to risk taking. In Greece everyone seemed to be ok with today being the day they die on the road and in Argentina people just pointed their cars in a direction and hoped for the best!

It's all just Woody Harrelson crying gif to him though.

I do so long as I can fast forward the boring bits! I haven't sat in a cinema with no control over pausing and fast forwarding in years. (Edit: I should say I've got ADHD so that's probably why lol)

I mean... who gets to their computer and just spontaneously thinks "I'm going to smear 65 year old Jennifer Grey today"? Sorry, but that's just so weird.

I mean... just look at them... 😲 Is this the life that's supposed to be the goal we should all be striving for? Look at those frozen, plastic faces. The soulless eyes. It's like they're just screaming silently inside. HOW IS ANY OF THIS A GOAL?!? This is why money frightens me.

What's that Superman? Why yes, of course this is just bread.

(Dumb joke aside that does look delicious. Would love to see some toasted :) )

This looks completely bonkers and fun :)

I give up, you win.