I find this accusation funny because I am a feminist
How you can be for equality of sexes yet still think one's benefits are more important than another in a relationship? I'm mansplaining and gatekeeping feminism to a woman on the internet. Wow, you got me, I am definitely an asshole.
I think this lead to me self sabotaging our relationship [...]
You also might want to reflect on how all of the things you describe in this paragraph would actually qualify as emotional abuse of your boyfriend, not self-sabotage. This is really dangerous because getting back together with your boyfriend might make you both fall into your old ways, which can include the addiction and the abuse. I hope you've recovered enough for that to not happen.
Anyway, I'm going to stop talking before I make more of an ass of myself. Just know that there's always people you can reach out to if you need help or for a random chat on the internet. I should go to bed. Goodnight.
Yup, this is open weights just like DeepSeek. Open source should mean their source data is also openly available, but we all know companies won't do that until they stop violating copyright to train these things.