MystikIncarnate

You're not necessarily wrong. I certainly don't have any information to refute what you say....

I'm just not sure that pointing this out on a post about a woman's death is enhancing the discussion at all, so I'm not sure why you felt the need to share....

I get what you're trying to say, but by saying it, you've demonstrated a significant misunderstanding of what it's like to live with depression and suicidal ideation.

As simply as I can: I wouldn't assume that she wasn't seeking mental health help when she ended her own life. Just because she was successful in removing her own life, does not mean she wasn't trying to save herself from that outcome.

Intellectually, the above statement is contradictory, if she didn't want to die, then why did she end her own life? That, is the very nature of suicidal ideation and depression. You can't intellectually ponder it out of existence, and you can want to live while still having suicidal urges that are hard to control.

This isn't a logic problem. Intellectual reasoning doesn't have a place in the discussion. The cognitive therapy you get from a mental health professional often needs to be paired with anti-depressants to mitigate the negative thoughts while you sort of work on rewiring how you think about the things that are causing you to feel depressed. Whether those things are internal thoughts, or comments from external sources...

Depression is a demon that isn't easy to overcome.

By saying she should have just gotten therapy trivializes the struggle that some people go through every day, so I would expect some down votes for your comment. I understand that your comment is meant to be helpful and coming from a place of caring, but it does not come across that way.

I'll add a disclaimer: all of the thoughts and ideas expressed here have no scientific, nor medical basis, I am not a doctor. These are from my own personal experiences and research, and have no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I may be wrong and if I am, I hope any readers will comment to let me know that I have erred.

A final note: to anyone struggling with mental health: I hope you get the help and support you need to overcome any struggles you may be experiencing. I sincerely hope you can find a path towards mental health that works for you.

Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.

My general rule of thumb is this:

Is this activity threatening to harm the lives, health, or well-being of anyone? Is this activity going to infringe on anyone else's inalienable human rights (to live, bodily autonomy, to exist without constant fear... Stuff like that)?

If the answers to both of these is a concrete "no" then I do nothing. I mind my own goddamned business and move along.

If someone is doing something that can and likely will end up with someone seriously hurt or dead, then yeah, I'll call and let someone know. Hopefully they can do something before anyone is seriously harmed. If one civilian is being mentally or physically abused by another, and I'm not in a position to intervene in a productive manner, then yeah, I'll call for that too.

If nobody is getting harmed, either mentally, physically, or financially, then I couldn't give any fewer shits. It's illegal? That's nice. The law can only be enforced if people who are tasked with enforcing it, take action. If they're not here, I don't feel any obligation to rat out someone who I don't know anything about. Maybe they're destitute because capitalism, or they're down on their luck, or something... They have a whole life story that I have absolutely no knowledge of.

Also, I don't consider corporations to be people (despite what the law might say), and if there's material/financial harm to a corpo, it would be impossible for me to give any less of a shit that whatever is happening, is happening. Whether theft, or destruction of property, or whatever... No shit will be given for your corpo overlords and/or shareholders. You all can get fucked. So if someone is stealing from.... Idk, Wal-Mart? And I saw that happen.... Then I didn't see anything officer. I don't know what you're talking about. That is an innocent person who has done nothing wrong. Where did they get the Walmart store-brand thing that they didn't pay for? I'm not sure, they probably had it with them before entering the store. I certainly didn't see them take anything that they shouldn't have.

Don't be a rat. Mind your own business; as long as nobody is getting hurt.... and if someone is getting hurt, do everything in your power to resolve the situation before resorting to a call to the police. It's actually really simple.

sounds like it's (long past) time to not cooperate with the ~~Houston~~ police in any investigation.

FTFY.

OSHA probably cares.

The company should care, because if the workers are dropping off because of heat stroke, they're not creating value for the shareholders.

Sooooo. Middle aged people? Or are we now dealing with those going into retirement.

I think I'm technically "middle aged" now.... No idea how that happened... But I know better than to think you can work your way through college and not come out the other side with a crushing amount of debt....

My country subsidized my education, and provided me with a loan to attend college. I finally paid it off some 20-ish years after I started college.

I've never seen a six-figure salary, despite probably being owed one, but the top rate I can find for my vocation in my local area is around $80k/yr or about 50-60k USD/yr.

Yet, if I go to the USA, and get the exact same job, I can make $80k+ USD, which would easily push me over $100k/yr in my country's currency.

If you guessed I'm from Canada, you may have looked at my username, and noted my home Lemmy instance.

International students pay something like 5x what Canadian citizens do for college/uni (at least they did, the last time I checked), and my local provincial government set up a student assistance program, which provides loans to college/uni students.

I still walked out of college with over $40k in debt and this was in the mid 2000s. Costs have only gone up.

I support student loan forgiveness. It won't help me at all, but I don't really want anyone else to have to go through what I did trying to pay everything back.

I appreciate your sacrifice, as someone who posted "as a man".

Sexism is bad. Doesn't matter who is on the receiving end. It's still bad.

Hey. As a man, I resent being lumped in with Elon on this.

The whole "but they do the bad thing" is a what about-ism; and many of us don't associate with people who we need to do mental gymnastics to justify their actions.

If I had a friend or acquaintance who was a child r*pist, I would have one less friend or acquaintances the day I found that out. I don't need anyone in my life that I have to justify their actions because of how shitty they actually are. My life is complicated, and/or, difficult enough... I don't need people in it that add to that with their drama and/or felony criminal activity. I don't care how "important" or "influential" they are, I will just remove myself from the situation and politely decline any future interactions with that individual regardless of all other factors.

Since I started abiding by this philosophy, I've lost more "friends" than I care to count, but the friends I still have, are people actually worth knowing. They're people who make me better as a person. I hope they feel the same about me, but that's entirely up to them to make a decision about.

In any case. Generalizing an entire gender because of the actions of one dude? Not cool. That would be like if I based my opinions on women off of the example set by someone like Carla Homolka. First of all, fuck that bitch and the horse she rode in on; she should eat the curb for the horrors she has committed; but also, she is not an example by which anyone should base an opinion on, about women in general.

Elon may be arguably less horrible than Homolka, but I think I've made my point.

As a straight, I agree with this.

Me personally, I'm ok, for the most part. I'm sure you are too ... But all of my fellow straights? Most of them are.... Well.... Very not ok.

As someone who is straight/cis/male, and very secure in that..... Anyone who takes offense.... Probably gay. Just saying.

I don't take any offense to this stuff. I know who I am. I know what I like. I know where I stand in the grand scheme of things. I live by a very straightforward philosophy: don't like gay sex? don't have gay sex. Don't like gay marriage? Don't get gay married. Don't deny someone else of what you don't want for yourself.

We're all different, and that's a good thing.

Do not apologize. That's quite the story you have.

If you're unhappy with where you are, who you are with, or who you are, you can always change. It's never too late and trust me, as a long term supporter of the LGBTQ+ movement (despite being very straight/cis), they are a very accepting group.

As an outsider, I can't tell you what, how, or when changes are going to work best for you, nor what changes you could, or should make. That's entirely your decision and it's a big one, and I'm sorry about that. I'm only saying that it's not too late to figure out who you are and how to be comfortable with your life.

All the best. Take care of yourself.

I don't expect to retire.

I'll probably be found at my desk on a Monday, not even first thing, but like, at 11:45, after dying there sometime Friday afternoon, and people just thought I was "working late" and left for the weekend, while I'm a literal corpse.

Whatever. I'm over it. I won't have any fucks left to give when that happens because I won't be alive to give any fucks.