MystikIncarnate

I basically don't write anything anymore. So no matter how "lazy" it might be, a dashed line like you suggest is a skill issue that I couldn't master at age.... 7?

I still haven't because I don't put pen to paper often, if at all. If I need to write 100 lines of the same thing, that's what copy/paste is for.

My work doesn't afford me to be focused on a single task until completion. That's the nature of the job I have, and there's nothing that I can do, nor anything my manager can do about that.

Forcing myself into rigorous scheduling is a trap for my mind. If a task takes longer than expected (which is frequent because I'm also very time blind), then I feel like I'm running behind and I have to rush to catch up. If something takes less time than expected, I end up in the mental trap of "I don't need to do x until y time" so I go do something else, and that distraction usually puts me behind my schedule, back to the first problem.

I end up constantly panicked because I'm running behind all the time. At the end of the day, though I may have completed everything, and done so in a reasonable timeframe, the only emotion that lingers is the feeling of disappointment in myself, that I couldn't keep up with the schedule.

That feeling leads to depression, which leads to me giving up on the entire system, after skipping it for several weeks and being "several weeks behind" on everything; and that leads to further depression.

If your scheduling thing works for you, awesome, I'm glad you found something that works for you, for the reasons I've stated and so many more, it does not work for me.

However, I recognise that you're saying this because you found what works for you, and it's brought so much order to the chaos that is normal for your mind from before; and you want to help others find the same happiness you have using this method. That's fine, and I hope your comment helps someone. I'm not that someone. I appreciate what you're trying to do here regardless.

I have my own solution now, and it's working quite well for me. My doctor and I built the therapy that I use to maintain order in the chaos of my life and mind, and I recognize that my therapy isn't going to work for others. Which is why I'm not saying what it specifically involves. I will say that medication is part of it. It works for me, and if anyone wants to pursue something similar, they should talk with their doctor about what therapy might be right for them.

I won't tell you that your methodology doesn't work, it clearly does. It works for you.

The only point I'm trying to make here is that, though it may work for you, it may not work for others, and they will have to find a different solution and/or therapy for themselves which works for them.

There is no universal solution for ADHD. For some it can be managed with mindfulness, scheduling, and a force of will, and little more. Others may need assistance in the form of gadgets, widgets, and thingamajigs (maybe fidget things? IDK)... Others may only need a small amount of medication to manage it, and others may need multiple medications before they see the results they're after.

All of these methods of therapy are valid for the people that benefit from them. Most of them won't work for most ADHD people, they'll have to find which one is going to work for them, and it's likely that one or more will work, they'll just have to figure out which one is the best for them by working with their doctor to figure it out. Hopefully that doctor is a psychiatrist with a specialty in ADHD; but I digress.

I've tried most of what you suggest and it did not work for me. That's fine. It works for you and I'm happy for that. The fact that I couldn't use that method to overcome my challenges, doesn't, and shouldn't imply that I'm somehow worse for it, or that I lack willpower, or that I can't make the hard choice or make the sacrifice to make it work. I'm easily one of the most willful people I know, even before I started my current therapy. The condition is simply more complex than a matter of having the willpower to overcome it. That may work for some, like yourself; or it may work for short periods of time, like it did for me; or it may not work at all for others. Everyone is different.

Masters degree plus years of experience for entry level work.

The difference with ADHD, especially untreated ADHD, and the idea of "sometimes you have to force yourself to do something" is that, as a person with ADHD, trying to force myself to do stuff, without the assistance of medication, can often be a bit like trying to nail jello to the wall.

It might work for a short time, but eventually, it'll be laying on the floor, not doing what you want it to do.... Much like me.

The paralysis is very real and very strong. The contrary feelings fighting eachother in your head, one voice saying how important it is and that you need to do it, another that's breaking down the task into every motion required, so one job becomes a quintillion individual steps, which makes you feel overwhelmed and anxious at even the thought of trying to do the job, and another voice berating you for being a lazy fuck who can't even do the most simple shit, like get off the couch and do the thing.

In the end you just feel horrible, both about the thing you should have done and about your worth as a person, leading to depression, which exacerbates the issue further.

It's a cycle of violence that most ADHD people have suffered with for their entire life.

This reminds me of a punishment homework thing I was given in my youth, I had to write out something a bunch of times, which was a shit punishment to begin with and only happened once in like, grade 3 or something. Maybe even grade 1 when we were learning to write, idk. Maybe it wasn't a punishment (it felt like one).

Instead of writing the letter "i" at the start of every line like I was supposed to, I just put a long line down the page to be that letter on every line.

The only part of this that I remember to this day is that I got it back with that line circled in red and the word "lazy!" Written next to it, with points off of the assignment for it.

That's literally the only thing I recall about it, that finding an "easy" way to write the same letter across multiple lines was lazy, therefore I'm lazy and worthless. I don't even remember if I passed or failed it, because that was less important to my young mind than being called lazy for simply trying to optimize my working time.

I dunno, but at this point I kind feel like that teacher was a bit of an asshole.

I don't think anyone is saying that only rape victims should be able to get an abortion.

At least, not that I've seen.

I'm sure someone with a fence wedged up their arse is going to say that or something similar...

To anyone considering it: prosecuting and proving that something is rape in order to allow the woman to abort a pregnancy will take so long that the pregnancy will be over by the time you get a final verdict.

Terminating a pregnancy is a personal choice and it should not be something that needs some kind of excuse to allow. It's a personal and medical procedure, by dragging it into the public, you're going to invite all kinds of HIPAA issues and you'll be unfairly exposing someone's medical situation to the public. To put it simply: you will make a very private medical decision, into a public record, for no good reason.

To anyone still reading, if you don't already, please support bodily autonomy, and women's rights. I'm a guy and I approve this message. (Anyone who disagrees, can go to hell).

You're arguing that the highlighting is wrong, that it should include "after" in the highlight?

We can't take it out, but we can over rule it with reason and logic. We can decide to do something that's not our "natural" choice.

I know plenty of childfree couples, yet our biological drive is to create children to perpetuate our genes in the species.

There's a lot of exceptions to the natural human drives that most people experience.

You mean 10 billion?

Large cities can have more than 10 million people, so I assume you mean the other thing.

Bluntly, half of the occupants of residences would be gone, and their stuff would be up for grabs. It would take a few years to stabilize afterwards, but it would mostly be business as usual for those who survived the snap (apart from the obvious mental trauma).

Enough homes exist for the number of people who live here now, whether those homes are condos, apartments, detached homes, townhouses, or otherwise. A lot of people would be able to move somewhere more permanent, because the housing market would crash pretty hard.

As we refill the homes the population would naturally return to the same level of growth we have seen previously.... So after a few years, maybe a decade, max, humanity would be back on the population train straight to 8B again for sometime between 2050 and 2075.

Humans don't really follow the same population rules as apply to animals, bacteria, or other organisms in general.

I'm pretty sure this was the entire premise of dumb and Dumber.

Technically, it's not wrong.

It's also not helpful, but it's not wrong.

Yes.