MystValkyrie

Everything involving this topic makes me so angry and sad. How do you trust any man now that this technology exists?

I think we should all think twice about having photos publically accessible, or even visible to friends, on social media. Between deepfakes, Kiwifarms if you're trans, and Clearview AI, Facebook and Instagram was a mistake.

It's illegal in other countries and eventually I think it will me in my country too, but it's already too late.

Like others have said, raising men properly, but also monitoring their internet usage during formative years. If they aren't given unlimited tablet/internet access, which is often the case, boys will always still find ways to outsmart parental locks, and parents need to stay two steps ahead.

I've heard so much messed up stuff involving the internet and Gen Z/Alpha in the news that's even worse than Andrew Tate exposure.

I'm kind more worried about future Gen Alpha men and younger Zoomers than Baby Boomer men at this point, but hopefully I'm wrong. There's still time.

Yep, most male gamers who take issue with Aloy can't tell she has some light coverage, and then criticize her for not wearing makeup and being ugly, which is amusing. And sad too, that even wearing makeup doesn't satisfy their impossible standards because it's still not enough makeup.

Maybe Aloy plucks? Some people just have great eyebrows without having to do anything, and I am jealous of those people.

I want to preface my experience by saying the wage gap is a serious problem and women deserve to be paid the same as our male coworkers for the same job, not to mention women being overlooked for raises and promotions.

Early in college, I took a job working summers at a newspaper manufacturing warehouse for $7.50 an hour to try to get my foot in the door in the journalism field. The starting pay and job titles were the same for all the entry-level folks, but the actual work was sex-segregated, and they put me with the men, which really sucked. For the cis women, it was mostly standing in place, feeding newspapers into a machine and making sure there weren't any jams. On one occasion when I got randomly put on the elusive morning shift (which never happened again), I was put on the feeders, and it was pretty easy; the worst part was pulling out a paper jam since that would halt the whole production line, but that rarely happened. Otherwise, for the cis men and one trans woman (me), we would do the packaging and loading. It was two or three people doing a physically strenuous job that required more workers to perform optimally, with one person frequently calling in sick, constant multitasking/running back and forth, lots of overtime and a handful of OSHA violations, including me being expected to operate a forklift without being certified. I don't know why they didn't hire more people with certifications or spread out the tasks more evenly. Things were so frantic all the time I'm glad I never got hurt on the job.

It was a lot of overtime, with random scheduling often landing me in the graveyard shift, so I didn't have a social life during that time and I wasn't sleeping very well. I put my two weeks' the moment I was offered an internship writing and editing for a local magazine. The one positive is that I was in really amazing shape for those summers.

even if you could theoretically tell a story that sounds somehow “unfair” depending on your storytelling skills.

Yeah, they sure do love pulling the Riley Gaines card even though she came in fifth, making it a total nonsequitur.

And I totally agree that this debate is too big considering it only targets a tiny handful of athletes. I say it's complicated because some arguments used feel, circumstantial? As in, "Trans women should play with women because there's only a couple of them anyway?" Would acceptance of that argument lead to tokenism? BWhat if, for whatever reason, a sports team happened to take on a lot of trans woman? I think that would be okay, but I worry it would dredge the debate up all over again.

Or, people often say, "Trans women should be allowed to play with women because they rarely win anyway." But what if a trans woman ends up on a winning streak and then another controversy erupts? I feel uncomfortable that our condition for entry is framed as our failure to win, and that if we win, then by implication we get othered as opposed to just being a woman who won a sports game one time. This recently happened, actually. https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/ca-school-sports-authority-panders

This is to say, I'm just thinking aboug how we come to a supporting argument that ages with grace? And what argument should that be? Not that I think any pro-trans argument would satisfy some people, with it being the wedge issue that makes TERFS out of people originally left of center. I guess I don't know the answer at this point.

It's a complex issue for sure, but I'm really proud of this thread for consistently using the term "trans women" when talking about the differences between trans women compared to cis women and cis men in sports.

On Reddit, most people on this debate just say "biological males," "males," or "men" in situations where they're clearly talking about trans women, which is a clear tell that it was never about fairness in sports for them.

As a bi woman, absolutely. I'm personally one who doesn't like falling behind on my shaving routine, but hair looks wonderful on anyone who chooses to grow it out. I may or may not have a weakness for crunchy granola girls myself. 😳

You'd think the literal apocalypse happening would be an acceptable justification for not being dolled up 100% of the time, yet here we are with Aloy.

And honestly, she looks pretty good for someone socially ostracized her whole life, not having a mom, and roughing it her whole life in a cabin that doesn't have running water. It could be a whole lot worse than just peach fuzz 🤷‍♀️

Tinted primer. I bought it with tinted moisturizer just to use during hot summer days, but it made me realize I'm not really into wearing a full face of foundation and now I wear it all the time.

It's great for a natural look and kind of does everything. It color-corrects like concealer, adds emphasis to my cheekbones, fixes the dark rings under my eyes, and covers up the imperfections with my skin.

I usually pair it with eyeliner and mascara and nude lip gloss and it's a nice minimalist look.

Hey, got any grapes?

I've fortunately never had to use online dating apps myself, but I have looked over male friends' dating profiles.

I think my best guy friend would be one of the better men out there, but he just got out of a seven-year relationship, is in a hurry to settle down before 30, and comes off really intense in his profile and messages without realizing it. Three big red flags right there.

One example in his profile: while it isn't a red flag to like cuddling, it is one to say his idea of a perfect first date is meeting for coffee, then going back to his place to cuddle and watch a movie. It took a lot to convince him to revise that section on the grounds that most women prioritize safety and won't want to go back to a man's place on the first date.